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My mum is dying

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CryingatChristmas · 06/12/2025 17:15

Not sure really sure why I'm posting, maybe just hoping for some advice or positive stories about how life goes on...
I'm sat at my lovely mum's bedside. She is dying of cancer, she has days left but the person she was had already gone. She is comfortable and sleeping, not sure she knows I am here. I feel robbed. She is 69 and until recently was so fit and healthy, glamorous and beautiful. I have young children who will never remember her. How does life go on? She's still here but I'm grieving - I'll never have another conversation with her, glass of wine, hug etc. I can't imagine ever going back to work or not crying all the time. Does it ever get easier? Please someone tell me if does or I don't know how I will cope. Thank you x

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helpagirl · 11/12/2025 19:42

Wow. I read this post and genuinely thought I had written it for a moment and forgotten I had posted.
My Mum died 2 weeks ago of cancer and was also 69. I also have young children and felt absolutely everything you are feeling. I sat with her everyday and watched her die, I was there at the end and it was the most awful thing I’ve ever been through. I’m not sure I will ever get over what has happened to her or me. If you ever want to message me privately then please do. I am sending you so much love and prayers.

harriethoyle · 11/12/2025 19:55

@CryingatChristmas in the last 36 hours of my mums life she was unconscious. I made a long playlist of her favourite music, and talked and read to her. When she died, I told her she had my permission to go gently and well. And she did. I have taken great comfort from that last time we had together and I hope in time you will too. I wish you strength.

exileinsunshine · 19/12/2025 13:47

I hope you are ok OP and coping.

My mum passed this morning and it was so peaceful, we had some carols playing, my dad was with her and I sat quietly watching her in the next room. She just went to sleep. I’m glad she is no longer suffering. We cared for her at our home, that has taken its toll having a young daughter too. Just hope to find peace in all of this in coming days.

sending all my love to you all going through this ❤️

Placeoftides · 24/12/2025 19:23

Just sending hugs to everyone who is currently doing this. I did it for my dad 2 months ago. I get it xx

NautilusLionfish · 24/12/2025 19:32

@CryingatChristmas thinking of you today in Christmas eve and you will be in my thoughts a Christmas tomorrow

Livpool · 24/12/2025 19:55

I am so sorry - your mum will always be with you. My dad died in August last year and I still miss him so much.

Wishing you love and strength

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