My sister died

[weusedtocampinthegarden]

Hi everyone
I am not really sure why I am posting this. I just found out my sister has died unexpectedly. I can’t talk to anyone in real life at the moment so I guess I just want a bit of a hand hold.
if anyone has any ideas of how to support my parents that would be appreciated. I don’t think there is anything worse than losing your child.

I’m so sorry to read this. My sister also died around this time although 22 years ago now, she was 19. Losing loved ones at this time of year is especially hard when you are bombarded with all the ‘festivities’, adverts with family gatherings and ‘jolly’ Christmas music playing in all the shops.

Theres not much I can say other than take each day as it comes and trust that time will help lessen the pain. Your parents will struggle and it will be hard but sometimes these things make us really grateful for the people that are still in our lives and it can help trivialise our problems and strengthen family bonds.
My sisters death has made me very grateful for the time I have with my loved ones even now after all these years. I refuse to hold grudges which I was very good at in my younger years and I take that as a gift from her.

I am in this situation too (10 years now). I wholeheartedly agree with every word of the above, especially about making sure you are supported too. The people who should have been there for me, wearnt and it still hurts to this day.

Offering a hand hold. My sister died recently very unexpectedly. Look after yourself

I am so sorry @weusedtocampinthegarden. My sibling died very suddenly 2 years ago and it is very hard. Take care of yourself as well as your parents, it’s really easy just to focus on them but you need space to grieve too.

Big hug. I lost my sister in January, also unexpectedly. I got a phone call at work and had to break it to my dad, who is in his 90s. We list my mum 3 years previously - January is a shit month for us.
I still miss her dreadfully, despite living far from each other and seeing each other rarely. My dad too went into ‘organising mode’ it was his way of dealing with it, he did the same when my mum died. Please take care of yourself as well as your parents, and take comfort from the fact that she was loved.

So very sorry, OP. Sendng you a gentle squeeze across the aether as you process the loss of your sister. May light perpetual shine upon her. 💛

How terribly sad for you all. My sincere condolences to you and your family.

So sorry @weusedtocampinthegarden, it’s very difficult and it will take a long time to process.

I lost my older and only dbro 15 months ago, also very suddenly. It felt such a normal day until the phone call that changed everything. It’s still really hard and I think about dbro so much but we are all getting on as he would have wanted.

Much love to you and your family💐

Thank you all so much for your very kind and wise words.
i am so sorry to those who have also lost loved ones, especially to those who have lost children. I can’t imagine anything worse.
I spent most of the day with my parents and we managed to have normal conversations as well as talk about my sister. They are doing all the right things and I feel very grateful that I don’t live far from them.

I hope you have a bit of time to get your heads around the loss of your sister. People who have been through similar experiences will often be there for you when others don't know what to say or do.

What a terrible shock for your family. I have 4 sisters and I can't imagine life without any of them. My condolences. 💐

Im so sorry for your loss. You must be in shock.

My sister died in August this year. She was 35 and two years older than me. I cry for her every night when I get into bed. All day I get on with the mundane tasks of life and then I get into bed and it hits me.

I would say make sure you take care of yourself physically. Eat, drink, wash. Try to get through the moments. If you feel like crying, do. Try not to avoid the emotion- lean into it. It’s hard for your parents of course, but sibling loss is unnatural and devastating too.

I like to talk about my sister. I’d like to tell you that she was beautiful and the kindest person I ever knew. She was so funny, so alive. She had the nicest white teeth. And lovely black hair and she had little freckles on her nose. And she always text me every single morning no matter what. I miss her texts. I miss her laughter. And I wish I could give her some of my time.

I Hope you can take care of yourself. Try not to worry about anyone else.

Thank you @lucya66 I am so sorry for your loss. I think I am still a bit in shock.
I am telling extended family today, and trying to get hold of her friends. I think talking about it all day might help it sink in.

So sorry.

So sorry for your loss.