Sad he has gone

[Tennyy]

My friend’s father passed away a few weeks ago. I have been to the funeral. 4 years ago her mother passed away too. Both were in their 70s.

I feel sad as whenever myself or her friends went to her house as she still lived with her parents they were so lovely and welcoming. They treated you like a close family member. I spoke to them many times over the years and got on well with them.

I am going to see my friend this week and will be going to the house but it will feel strange without both parents not being there.

It’s natural to feel sad, both on your own behalf and in empathy with your friend. Do try to recall any specific anecdotes about happy times you spent with them - for your condolence card or to share when ypu see your friend.its really comforting when you lose a parent to hear others happy memories of them

I think when you’ve known people for a long time and they are lovely people, even if you didn’t see them that often, it’s very natural to feel sad. My friend’s mum is ill at the moment. I haven’t seen her for forty years but I’ve still got the little glass bowls she brought us for a wedding present and I remember her being very kind when I was a teenager so I’m sad she’s dying, even though she’s 92!