Dreams after bereavement

[YourFairCyanReader]

I have been having such intense, unnerving dreams since my relative died. Some with her in, but she is alive again, annoyed with us that we had tried to cremate her. In one, she was living in another place and I could visit her. Other dreams have just been distressing, like rats or intruders in my home.
Has anyone else experienced this?

I went through this when my dad died, a "good" death from cancer in a lovely hospice. The most vivid, frightening dreams of my life. It did go after a few weeks.

I hope your dreams settle down soon. 💐

Yes.

The first year after my dad died I could see him in the distance, but could never catch up with him.

Then one night I did. We hugged. We sincerely said thing that we both wanted to hear and say. None of which I can remember.

And then the dreams slowly faded away.

I think I processed a good chunk of the grief while asleep. For a notable length of time. Which I admit I though was normal, because it makes sense that the sub conscious tries to sort things out when it’s free from the conscious.

Yes I did when my MiL died. I was surprised actually by how it had this impact on me. It’s common in times of grief. My dreams were that I was being held under water & it only stopped by my waking up screaming out. Weirdly I didn’t have it when my Dad died.

I have had them for years at least twice a week, and I was with two family members at the end. So you would assume my brain could join the dots, but no.

In the one where she is living somewhere else, I can see past her, inside the house, but i cant go in past the porch. She was sweeping the floor and about to mop, she was intent on keeping it clean.
Thanks for sharing yours, it is good to know this is normal. The brain processing, as you say

Yes I've had this. I had to move house (not by choice) in the first year after my mum died. For a while I had dreams that she was looking for me and couldn't find me. Then I had one where I was showing her all round my new house and after that the dreams stopped.

Yes I had loads when dh died and I can remember each clearly. Usually I’ve forgotten dreams quickly.

Yes, loads. I’d dream DH was back, but I knew I was going to lose him again and I had to make the most of my time with him. They were all lovely dreams, and very vivid/memorable. I sincerely hope they never fade.