my Ds's stepbrother died yesterday at Rockness

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I am not close to his mother ,but it is very sad.
My son was supposedly going there aswell so I think he is in major shock ,as is everyone .
Not sure why I have posted , I don't really know how to support my son ,he is 17 and the other boy was 18.
No-one should have their children die bfore them . all mothers feel for each other in these circumstances.

thank you all for your comments.
I am finding it hard ,but it is not me who really needs the sympathy,I just cannot comprehend the way she and her dd must feel.
all you parents out there who have gone through losing a child must be made of much stronger stuff than me.
I just wish this did not happen to anyone.
My dh says it is terrible ,but I should be calm and remember we all have a bag of heartbeats and when we run out thats it.
I am not that sure at the moment.

Wisteria i have just been onto your link .
it has some beautiful quotes, I am now in tears again.
God only knows how his mother must feel.
I have had grief in the past but never a child I had brought into this world.
I hope his passing was a peaceful one and there was no suffering.
I think in my last post I made my DH seem
heartless but he's lovely and that is how he copes. His own father died very suddenly last year.
the contrast between him and my ex are as clear as black and white.

Am not trying to be funny here.. can you ask someone else to write the envelope so that your ex doesnt recognise the handwriting... i know it sounds a bit underhand but worth a shot maybe??

Lottie , I have posted it now.
I will just have to hope that she gets it.
This is what I put:
Dear **
I was very sorry to hear the terrible news about Ryan. No-one can begin to understand why these things happen.
He had grown into a great young man, a credit to you.

As one mother to another I will say that I would never wish for anything like this to happen to anyone. My thoughts are with you and knowing that people care may bring you some solace.
I like to think of those that pass before us, as stars in the sky. Who light the way for us to carry on.
Even in your darkest hour this may give you something to focus on.

kindest regards

I told my son I was going to send a card and he will hopefully remember and make sure if he sees my writing to give it to her.
right now I am more worried about how he is as I cannot get him to speak at all.