Would I be crazy?!?

[Laura1579]

Hello just looking for opinions really. I had a tfmr at 23 weeks in september due to baby girl having a severe heart defect. Basically my options were to terminate or watch her struggle and pass away moments after she was born. Ever since her funeral I feel like I really want to try for another baby. My partner says it's way to soon to even be thinking about it but I can't shake the thought out of my head. Would I be crazy to try for another?

I am so sorry for the loss of your baby girl!

I wouldn't say you are crazy, definitely would say you are grieving. And during grief, making decisions are never advised. This situation though, it is complex. In your situation I could see myself feeling how you are right now.

So I am definitely not saying you shouldn't but I would say, couples therapy would be best as your partner may be really struggling too.

Be kind to yourself, no pressure!

Thank you for your kind words.

We've spoken about it and he's said he'd like to try for another but obviously he had his worries about the health of any future babies. We had to have some genetic testing done to see if she had a syndrome that caused the defect and were told not to try before we got the results. I had a call last week to say there was no syndrome detected and we had the all clear to try again but this sort of knocked me back. Although it's good there was no genetic problem which means it's unlikely to happen again it doesn't really give me an answer as to why this happened to my poor baby girl.