Feel very jittery

[Fluttershy50]

It has being over 14 months since my late mothers passed after a dreadful last couple of years of long term illness my dad has Parkinson's as well.
My in laws who live locally don't really acknowledge my bereavement didn't come to the funeral don't mention my mother 's name .
Even though we had family gatherings.
My only sibling has moved up north .
My dad is old fashioned and is constantly worried that she is single without children
(We are both late 40's early 50's)
My daughter is recently diagnosed with autism and ADHD as a young adult.
I feel as if my old life has gone
Don't know how to move on
Can't concentrate on things feel as if I don't live in the real world
Having to help my daughter with additional needs and severe anxiety
Try and go out for Walks fresh air
But have hurt my foot waiting for physio
Feel as if my life is not going any where thinking should do some voluntary work of some sort
Every thing is overwhelming
Doesn't feel equal
Such as my in-laws attitude
My dad pre occupation of my sister
How do I take small steps to feel better ?

Have you considered therapy? I’m six months in after losing both parents, and all my extended family, marriage issues that are leading to a divorce and suddenly being an almost empty nester. It’s been so valuable to help me reset and reclaim myself within all that. I went through Bupa originally and my therapist is incredible.

🩷🩷thank you yes I have a mental health support phone call next week from my GP 😊

You are going through an awful lot at the moment. I found that I needed to acknowledge out loud (to myself) that my life was overwhelming and shit really. Once that’s been acknowledged you can feel compassion for yourself, at what you’re dealing with. The other thing that might help is journaling, basically write down everything that’s going through your head in this moment and then destroy the paper. Somehow it helps to get things out of your mind onto paper.
I second going to counselling. It helps to have someone else listen and to have space to work out where you want to be.

You’re not just mourning your lovely mum, you’re mourning the life you used to have. That’s never really talked about but it is definitely a thing.

Have you tried any bereavement groups? I found a local one very helpful, just to be in the same room as people who know was actually quite lovely.

🩷🩷 thank you for your post

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