Moving because my Grandma died

[Beabea88]

Hi all,

I wonder if anyone could advise me please on how to navigate moving. My Grandmother has passed away and her children are putting the house up for sale that I have been living in all my life. Unfortunately I do not have the money to buy them out. The only thing is over the last couple of years I have had some chronic health issues and so wasn’t in the best place to put myself in order before my mama died. Anyway right now I have one month to move with my daughter and our dog. I’ve never moved house in my life before and I’m panicking! I have to somehow clear my home of everything (I have put things up for sale on Facebook marketplace) but I need everything gone. Further to this I don’t know where we’re going. I just need some advice and support right now because it’s just the three of us. (Family don’t want to wait and want the house up for sale). I have recently signed up for UC 😭 I don’t know I just need some direction please. Crashing out 😭

TIA

B x

Sorry for your loss it sounds like a tough situation especially when you are grieving.
Have you let your local authority housing provider know that you are about to be made homeless?
You could try Citizens Advice for some advice. I’d start looking if someone can look after your dog temporarily ( friends or local organisation) as some accommodation won’t allow pets.
Hope you can get the right help and support soon.

Why do you need to move in a month? , if they haven't even put the house on the market yet it isn't going to have sold and completed in 4 weeks?

So sorry for your loss OP. Are you not inheriting any of the estate? Which of your parents is the child of the grandmother? Are they still alive?

They want me out of the house despite me being the carer for both of my grandparents. I’ve asked for time but it’s what they want. I don’t know what else to say. I just need some encouragement or direction. 😬 thank you for responding x

Yes I will be inheriting but I have to wait. My mama is my mummy’s mother. I have no parents or grandparents all sets have died. No siblings. Not close with my family it really was just my grandparents, myself and later on my daughter.

Wow, that's harsh. You were both grandparents' carer for a long time? So their kids didn't have to do any of it? And they want you out in four weeks?

I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how you must feel. You've lived there all your life, and your grandparents didn't bother securing your future there?

Citizens advice should certainly be your first call. Also try Shelter's helpline.

Don't move out until you've had legal advice.
If you will be looking to be rehoused by the council, then you will probably need a formal Notice to Quit followed by an actual eviction- speak to the council to find out.

Dont be rushing to get out of your home for those money grabbing selfish bastards that didnt help the oldies like you did.

Remind then that if it wasn’t for you doing whatever you did, THEY’D have had to have done it. so they owe you time at the very least to move house.

They don’t care and never have. I’ve lived a life of surveillance, isolation from other family due to bad mouthing etc. with them in the background they don’t offer any help advice or support. Just criticism and money money money. Funny thing is one of my cousins told me that her father wanted to take me to court when mama dies. I asked him for help me to leave since he’s always really wanted me gone - so that I could get a place with my daughter and he told me he’d never help me. My grandparents didn’t want me to leave and silly me because of trust issues I’ve just stayed silent and afraid in the background. I’ve always known I’m on my own but this is dark. I’ve ‘stood in the way’ a long time and they’ve been waiting for this day. Here it is!

No they didn’t. Just surveilled (correct spelling) from a distance. I was a little too good ant looking after my mama and papa so I’m sure that pissed them off. My papa wanted to leave it all to me but my mama was soft hearted in the months closer to her death her son caused so much trouble in the family and she wanted to change everything but as my luck would have it she got sick and died 😭

I will look into what you have said. I appreciate you. X

Thank you for your advice x

Who is the Executor? And what is it you will inherit? If you inherit part of the property then they need your agreement to sell, all beneficiaries must agree. You need to seek professional help from a solicitor asap.
I’m assuming you’re in the UK - England/Wales is that correct?

Be aware , once you inherit , the amount will effect any uc entitlement .

Agree with others that you need to speak to a solicitor.

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If you inherit enough to buy a small flat if you do that and the money leaves your account then remember to claim again afterwards.

You only won’t have a claim while there is too much in your account.

I think you're ok if it’s under £6k or something and if it’s under £16k or something you can still get some money but over that Im not sure (and im not sure of these figures either). Just tell the truth to the benefits people. Some benefits are not means tested at all. The citizens advice are good re benefits help.

You can put the inheritance into a SIPP if a large amount. That way, your UC is not affected as SIPPs aren't considered as savings for UC purposes

I was the executor. Mama died last year and I wasn’t ready to deal with things due to illness. Somehow they have removed me as executor and have put the house in their name and have instructed solicitors to write to me to leave. Sorry my head is everywhere so I’m not particularly thinking straight in terms of giving you all the details (you’re literally jogging my memory). Apparently all of the other beneficiaries have agreed so it’s 5 against 1. Yes I am in the UK.

Ahhh thank you advice much appreciated. I will look further into this.

Thank you will look into this x

I would wait until you get some official order to leave. Get everything in order as much as you can for your departure, but they will need something official to force you to leave.

Edit: get your own solicitor.