Advice on saying goodbye

[ipredictariot5]

Hope someone can give me advice. My father is dying and only found out he had advanced cancer three weeks ago. He doesn’t want to see or speak to his grandchildren ( all young adults) as he is too upset.
got any experience of video messages / voice messages they have made in these circumstances?

I don't have experience with GC, but when DH was dying DC, 17 & 19, at the time didn't want to "talk" to him. I tried to encourage them to spend time with him, but they mostly avoided that too. They both had a few minutes with his body before it was taken by the undertakers.

Everyone's different but mine would have hated being asked to do a message.

My mum didn't want to see anyone as it was too shocking for her, like your dad she was too upset.

Respect your dad's wishes.

My children (young adults) and my husband each sent a Whatsapp voicemail that I played to my mum the day before she died. She was in and out of consciousness but the messages were heard and she reacted to them. I'm glad she heard them.

My DF died in his care home during the first month of lockdown. I got his grandchildren and my elderly DM to do videos and I played them through his window. He died about 5 hours later but I like the think he heard their voices

When my grandfather was in the same situation, we made short video messages with simple words, not goodbyes. Just small stories or memories. He watched them when he was ready. It helped everyone feel connected without pressure.