Finding it hard !

[LizTs1990]

I need to vent. I’m dealing with grief, lost my grandparent at the beginning of August and 3 weeks later my dad unexpectedly died.
the last 3 weeks have been a total blur and it’s a struggle. I feel completely lost.
its come to a head tonight, husband has returned home after a drinking session with friends completely out of it throwing up all over himself. We are meant to be flying out to Spain for a wedding anniversary break on Monday morning. I cannot face it As I now do not want to go.
obviousky very angry at the state my husband has not got himself into, there was an incident a few days ago where he really lost his shit with my child and broke the light switch off the wall. I know he’s probably grieving and struggling too but it’s just too much.
what do I even do!?

I am so sorry for your losses. To have both so close together and with one very unexpected must be very hard and no wonder you’re struggling. It is very normal to feel terrible so give yourself some slack if you can and take care of yourself even if it is in little ways.

Your DH’s struggles are not like yours. He may be grieving, or finding your grief difficult, but that does not give him the right to behave in out of control or abusive ways. It’s no wonder you don’t want to go away with him. Regardless of what you do about the planned break I’m sure the longer future than that is starting to loom large in your head to add to your bereavements.

If it couldn’t go wrong, what would you do?