My beloved boy, mummy misses you.

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It's been a year. The sadness tears at mummy's heart still. When is this going to be better? I do not know.

Your silent bed. Your ashes in your room. Everytime I cook a meal, thinking of you.

The dreams I have of you alive. Only to wake up to despair again.

The last time I saw you alive, you were happy. Going off to school. You never return.

Love you forever, my boy. Wait for mummy and daddy, we will find you when our time is up ❤️

We wrote a memorial for you. It's all that we have now, instead of you.

The world prays for you now. Your spirit is with God. Fly free now.

What a sweet boy, I am so sorry. ❤️💐

I am so sorry for your loss. 1 year is no time. Very tragic story which I hope influences positive change.

I’m so, so sorry for your loss.
Your son is beautiful, and sounds like a lovely soul.
I’m thinking of you.

Absolutely tragic. Thinking of you all. I hope his siblings are coping as well as can be

Thank you for the messages. The siblings are coping better now, took a year. They cried for months. shakened, nightmares, scared... Now they say their brother is a spirit around them now, as part of their coping. They managed to move on, new schedules and new friends.

Myself the flashbacks and triggers are still everywhere. While cooking food that he used to like. Like hearing the schoolbell in the mornings. Have to hold on and continue living for the kids though. Especially when three are still 10yo and below. ❤️ And continue working on advocating for more emotional support for sensitive children in schools. Can't bring him back, but at least hope the lessons from his death are not lost.

Can't bring him back to life, but hope things will slowly get better. I dunno. Time will tell.

I am so so sorry. All the love and strength to you ❤️

I am so sorry for your loss and the way you lost him to Heaven. Your loss is so raw and I understand your pain and cry with you.
My first child died suddenly at 14 months and the pain was fresh for many years. I had more children which helped me to carry her life through with theirs. But she is always missing and that is how it’s always been and will be.
It does get easier but it isn’t easy. Stay strong and focus on the positive things you know about your son. Remember those things and talk about him every day. Celebrate his life. Don’t try to understand why, you’ll never know and it hurts to try and do so.
Never forget the love, it will stay with you forever xxxx

You gave your boy such a happy life. It's an awful tragedy and a sad loss of life but he continues to live in Heaven and will be with relatives who have passed before. I can't imagine the pain you feel, it must be horrendous. Thinking of you. Keep thinking of the happy memories and all of the times you made him smile (and he you).

My heart aches for you. You are brave and strong. I would hope I could handle such an awful situation with such grace, but I don't think it would be possible.

You sound like an incredible woman, he is a lucky boy to have you as his mum. Sending love to you and your family ❤️💙

Beautiful boy..I'm so sorry for your loss...what an amazing mum you are xx

Oh my goodness I am so very sorry. What a beautiful boy 😔

I’m so very sorry your family has to endure this.

what a beautiful boy ❤️❤️❤️

What a beautiful, smiley boy. Rest in peace sweetheart ❤️

So very sorry. He's a completely beautiful boy. Xxx

I’m so sorry ❤️

What a beautiful boy Yong Le. And what a tragedy for you all. Thank you for working towards more emotional comprehension in school. I have a very sensitive 12 y old boy and this is my greatest fear.

I’m so sorry for the loss of your beautiful boy! It is truly tragic and should never have happened, I too have a sensitive young boy, I worry about him as he gets older. Thank you, for fighting for change, and for sharing your lovely son’s photos and memorial. A year is still only a very short time. It’s still very raw! I’m thinking of you and your family, sending you love and strength.

Your dignity and generosity of spirit, in the face of the devastating loss of your beautiful, wonderful boy, is truly humbling.

I’m so sorry for your loss OP - if I may, I’d like to share this poem with you. This has been helping me a bit with my grief.

goodbye
I cannot say goodbye
you are so vividly alive
to me
in the wake of everyday
and the brush
of every breeze

So I’ll simply say hello
watch for the signs
I know you’ll show
to me
all the ways you’ll light
my world
now your soul
has been set free

By Donna Ashworth

Today is Yong Le's 13th Birthday. We pray in hope for quiet peace and hearty empathy in society.
We share a message written for him, in remembrance, in hope, and as a voice for other emotionally sensitive children.

I am so sorry for the loss of your son. An absolute tragedy. What lovely photos, and how compassionately you have written about him and what happened to him.

A lovely commemoration, OP.

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Thank you for sharing the birthday photos. I am so sad for you and your family, unimaginable grief x

you’re a brave mummy posting these lovely photos and moving thoughts, so very sorry for your loss.