Mum feeling sad

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I’m fortunate to be able to say that I was blessed with the most lovely parents ever. Sadly we lost my Dad a couple of years ago. They would have been married 62 years.

Mum is amazing. She is 83 and very active. Walking, yoga, gardening, art classes etc… she lives down the road from us and we see her all the time.

She’s had bereavement counselling bless her, she said it was helpful. But she’s sad.

She doesn’t want to live with us, she doesn’t want to live with friends, she doesn’t want lodgers, but she’s lonely. She misses him so much. We all do. I just wish I could make it better for her. It’s so heartbreaking.

I think that is very understandable.

It's great that she has things that she likes to do, that keep her alive, and at which she will see other people, as well as having you close by.
In the scheme of things, a couple of years is nothing.
Indeed, there are plenty of people who find the second year more difficult. They find people are sensitive about 'first Christmas / birthday / holiday / anniversary' etc, then expect life to go on as normal, but it doesn't.

Near me I know of 3 different bereavement groups where people can just go along and chat. Not with professional counsellors but just with other people mourning the loss of their loved one. Might something like that help her ?

We lost my DM earlier this year. My DF has found a bit of solace in the church. He was never religious before but they have a café and lots of events for the community and that is really helping him. Might there be something like this at your mum's local church? She might meet other people who are on their own and know how she feels. My parents were also married over 60 years. So hard and sad.