Easy to eat food

[kippersmum]

Unusual question I know. My dad is in hospice and not doing well. I'm really struggling to eat anything and I very nearly keeled over in Tesco earlier today trying to get the basics. My stomach is in knots and I can't face eating anything apart from rhubarb yoghurt for some reason. I'm also vegetarian. Anyone got any ideas?

Everyone is so lovely on this topic and you’ve had so many great ideas.
I’m also so sorry you’re going through this it’s truly heartbreaking. Just to add that when I was in a similar position earlier this year I just ate cereal so weetabix and cornflakes and it kept me going.
Sending love and try and eat whatever you can just to keep going x

So sorry to hear this. 💐

Ready made Pasta parcels (ravioli), v quick to make, long shelf life, and have a variety of veggie options

Thank you all for your suggestions and kind support. It means so much. It's been a long day. Thank you to the poor PP who collapsed in the street and was taken to hospital in the same situation. That was very nearly me. After reading your post I've had a sandwich and even some halloumi. I've also stocked up on huel and similar. Highlight of today, there is a local cat that hangs out round the hospital, today she popped in to see my dad, the lovely staff brought her straight in. She had loads of cuddles with him and then curled up and went to sleep next to him when he was tired. My dad loves cats and it meant the world to him. Thank you Dusty

Hugs to you OP, I am currently sitting next to my dad’s hospital bed after being told he is now end of life, so I understand the lack of appetite. Even the thought of food turns my stomach, currently surviving on sweet milky tea and the odd biscuit.

I remember saying to my brother when our dad was dying I don’t think I’ll ever be hungry again but you will. I just drank tea, tea and more tea and then one day I really fancied a jacket potato with cheese. Don’t be hard on yourself you will be hungry when your hungry, just maybe shove in a quick banana or something that don’t feel like your actually eating and it will be temporary I promise. Sending you love x

You need to try and eat something. I have learnt this the hard way. Huge hugs to you. I know how hard this is

I've used Metatone Tonic when my appetite is not good. Chicken noodles or cuppa soup and bread I find easy to eat during these times too.

How are you today @kippersmum? I'm so glad to hear that you've been able to eat something, keep it up. It will help give you strength to get through these terrible days. Little and often is the key, and you'll be able to do that now you've got some supplies in your fridge.

How lovely that Dusty the cat was able to visit your Dad and bring him some pleasure. Kindest thoughts to you and your darling Dad.

Update. My dad isn't doing well. I'm actually really scared about watching him die. It sounds so silly, he's quite scared too so I don't feel I can say anything to anyone. This is a very odd question but has anyone lost someone to acute leukemia and can you give me an idea what to expect. I just think if I have an idea about what's going to happen I can stay calm and reassure Dad

Oh Sweetie. I know how you must feel. I lost my 36yo DH to leukaemia just over 7 weeks ago.
It was a horrible time, more for me than him, but he was peaceful at the end.
He was on end of life care for 9 days in the end. He was made comfortable with meds and once he stopped being able to fully communicate with nursing staff, I was super glad to be with him as much as I possibly could to advocate for him because I could tell, just by having known him for so long what he needed and when.
The staff who were providing my DHs care were undoubtedly the most lovely people and I cannot fault them in the slightest for the care they provided him.
Thinking of you. xxx

Sending love @kippersmum
Can you talk to the staff about what to expect ?
It doesn't sound silly at all to be anxious about this , sounds completely normal .
Regarding appetite and food I had oesophageal cancer and surgery and sherry was much mentioned as something to encourage appetite.
Hang on in there sweetheart .x

Thank you all for your support. Update, my Dad is still with us, still totally with it mentally but cannot move at all on his own physically unfortunately.

Some extremely good family friends have travelled to see him ( we are in a remote rural location) and dad wants a drinks party with all of us briefly tomorrow! The local hospice are brilliant and have said 6+ visitors at once with tomato juice and lots sherry is absolutely fine. I think he will go soon after tbh. It's so hard.

I'm so sorry you're going through this, I can hear the turmoil in your post. It's so hard watching a parent die (I'd lost both of mine by 50) but you will come through the other side and knowing you did 'right' by him will be a comfort.

If you like iced coffee, the Starbucks protein latte is very nice and not gritty like some of the protein shakes.

Good luck and I hope your dad gets joy from his drinks party x

I felt like this when my dad was dying, it’s awful. Try natural yoghurt even just a bit and plain cereal also from boots you can buy meal replacement, maybe slim fast? Xx

Still thinking of you.