Not quite sure what I'm asking here. Perhaps wondering how other people have dealt with these situations? I can't really relate to anyone around me at the moment.
So I lost my Dad around 8 weeks ago, obviously still grieving and trying to come to terms with this on its own. My Mum died 12 years ago so ontop of this I'm also in this weird "feeling like an orphan" stage even though I'm 39, married with 3 kids!
My kids are older, 22, 18 and 16. My Middle one Is off to university next month (staying there) and my eldest is potentially moving in with his girlfriend - 3 hours away! She previously lived with us but then found a job near where her Dad lived and so moved in with him. My son has been offered a job there, it's a job he isn't sure about and so he is going to give it a trial month. In all honesty I think he is only doing it because he misses not seeing his girlfriend as frequently as before as he has made it clear in the past both to us and to her that he didn't want to move away from where we live now as he wanted to remain close to family. He has been to university (but lived at home), got his degree and is now looking for his next step. He has worked since he was 16 but now he wants a career rather than a job - I feel like this job he has gone to is just that. A job not a career, but I know he needs to make that decision for himself.
I'm just struggling alittle bit with so many changes. I want the best for them all but my god nobody tells you how hard it is to "let them go". We are a very close family, my 16 year old daughter was crying yesterday at the prospect of both her big brothers moving out next month. I've been their Mum since I was 18 so my whole adult life has been about them. It's really hard to take that back seat now when they are making decisions.
I've spoke to my husband about it. He understands and obviously is sad too, but I think he can push that emotion aside and see the bigger picture alot better than I can.