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Our Family Was Destroyed by 11 Misdiagnoses — I Lost My Husband, and My Son Lost His Dad

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YujiaoChang · 30/07/2025 18:05

This Monday, three major media outlets shared our family's story, Telegraph, Metro and Mirror
I never imagined that one day, our photo would appear in the news under such heartbreaking circumstances.
Every time I open one of those articles, it's like tearing open a wound that never had a chance to heal.
He was a loving husband and father,
but he was misdiagnosed 11 times—and in the end, it was the very healthcare system meant to save him that took him away from us.
There was one time he collapsed at home.
When he regained consciousness, he leaned against the wall, crying, and said to me:
“Why won’t the doctors believe me? I’m in so much pain. Why won’t they help me? I don’t want to die.”
That moment has become the most recurring nightmare of my past two years. It rips me apart every single time.
Our child should have grown up with a father by his side.Even when facing surgeries, he should’ve had both his parents holding his hand.
But now, every time he says, “I miss Daddy,” I feel like I can’t breathe.He’s young, but he remembers everything.
I know life has to go on,but these painful memories will never leave me.
What the media has reported isn’t even a tenth of what we’ve gone through.People already think it’s a tragedy—but the truth is far worse than what’s been written.
One doctor’s arrogance and stubborn refusal to listen set off a devastating chain of events—a butterfly effect that left us with nowhere to turn for help and ultimately destroyed our family.
We were a well-educated family with a good standard of living, yet when faced with this kind of medical disaster, we were powerless. And I wonder: how many others have been through something similar?
How many voices are still going unheard?
I’m speaking up—not just to share my pain, but to make sure others don’t have to go through the same nightmare.
We can’t change the past,
but if by telling our story, we can help prevent even one more family from suffering like this,
then I will carry this pain with purpose.
Media coverage links are in the top comment.
#JusticeForQinghu #MedicalNegligence #ListenToPatients #NeverAgain #GriefAndStrength #RealStoriesMatter
Here are online links: https://www.mylondon.news/.../man-died-after-being...
https://www.telegraph.co.uk/.../father-died-of.../
https://www.mirror.co.uk/.../doctors-said-dad-migraine-11...

Doctors said dad had a migraine - 11 times - and then he died

By the time his condition was diagnosed his brain was already swollen and he needed a string of operations

https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/health/doctors-said-dad-migraine-11-35585557?fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0CMTAAYnJpZBExdVNIVVE3Rm1OaHFqcHgxSAEejLbLv1eLhckEr8uyLrcF0r95mr7VYExtrNZhHITZqgeSzZlSlIS30DjH5ps_aem_sJMSEdSbnAp1QCg2CzgwIQ

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Stichintime · 30/07/2025 22:09

My condolences. Im so sorry this happened to you and your son. Have you spoken to a solicitor about compensation? I know it won't ease your pain, but may make life a little easier for you both.

cranberryshortcake · 30/07/2025 22:32

This is devastating. I’m so sorry, heartbreaking 💔

Stopsnowing · 30/07/2025 22:36

So sorry for your loss.

Jeevesnotwooster · 30/07/2025 22:43

I'm so sorry for your loss and your terrible experience.

GreatTheCat · 30/07/2025 23:41

Oh I'm so sorry about your loss.

Mumofmarauders · 31/07/2025 13:52

I saw this story and I absolutely shuddered, it’s so horrifying what has happened to your lovely family and it could (and as you say almost certainly has) happen to anyone in our failed health system.

Massive good wishes to you, I’m so sorry

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