Brain tumour 6 weeks and my favourite aunt is dead

[MrsSlocombesCat]

I feel blindsided. My aunt who was like a big sister because she lived with us from the age of 13 and was only ten years older than me got diagnosed with a brain tumour and died. Just like that. She was diagnosed 2 weeks before I found out. For context my grandparents all lived a fairly long life and I thought my aunt would too. I was told she had nine months with treatment but it didn’t happen and she died before I could see her. She lived 200 miles away. I feel bereft but don’t feel like I am entitled to because we had so little contact after she moved up north. I was always short of money. I have a son with ASD. But I always thought she would always be there. To be honest I thought she would outlive me, she was slim, active and passionate about her horse. I don’t know how to feel. I haven’t cried yet, but I know it’s there. I don’t think I have processed it yet. I just wondered if anyone else felt the same way.

I'm sorry for your loss. It's very hard when it's so quick and sudden. It's not a surprise that you'll be in shock. Do you have any family you can talk to?

I am so sorry gor your loss.

I'm so sorry for your loss 😞 sudden deaths and no goodbyes are the hardest. Don't feel guilty for not being there for her and seeing her often....we all get busy in our lives, it's understandable ❤️
Hope your family & friends are supportive and help you through this difficult time.
At the moment you're still in shock but it will hit you, will you be attending her funeral? Maybe that could be your goodbye to her 💐

I’m so very sorry for your loss

Thank you. There's nobody in the same position as me iyswim. My brother's were too young to remember her living with us, and I was closer to her because our children were similar ages so we saw each other a lot. I think the shock is the biggest thing, it felt like a sucker punch.

Thank you. Yes, the funeral is next Friday. My son and I were travelling up to see her when we got the message she'd died. So we did a u turn and came back home. It's just so sad. She was a brilliant person.

Thank you 🙏

Thank you 🙏