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I went to a beautiful funeral today

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notthenameofthegame · 03/07/2025 00:14

As per the title. Although, it was called "a celebration of life". I can't say too much as it would be outing. The lady who died was a neighbour. Older, but not elderly. Died very suddenly.

Unknown to me, the family had held a very private service this morning at the crematorium, to say goodbye to her. I understand it was by invitation only, and that only the closest family had attended. The celebration of life took place at the baptist church she'd attended for most of her adult life. There was no wake, but a buffet lunch at the church hall before the service in lieu of same. I don't know much about the baptist faith, but I do know I've never been made so welcome in all my years. I sat eating lunch with total strangers who spoke to me as if they'd known me forever.

The service was lively. Lots of musical instruments, all the music for the hymns was performed lived. Several of the family and close friends spoke at the front - lots of good memories spoken about, and a few tears of course. Lots and lots of laughter from the audience as amusing anecdotes and beautiful memories were shared. After each person completed their speech, a round of applause went up.

I have been to a lot of funerals over the years, but nothing quite like this. I think having her faith obviously helped, as this really was all about thanking God for the life of the person as opposed to mourning the loss.

I really don't know what I expect to get back from this post. I just wanted to share the experience.

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Arlanymor · 03/07/2025 00:22

That sounds like a lovely and fitting tribute to her and I am so pleased that you found it so affirming.

We're at the stage with my parents where we are talking about what happens next - neither want a funeral - so it will be a celebration of life situation, but without religion. So it was lovely to read about the particularly positive parts of the 'ritual' (for want of a better word?!) for you. Thank you. Also sorry for your loss, even if she had a 'good innings' - any loss is a shock and brings sadness.

NC28 · 03/07/2025 00:28

That’s lovely, OP. The way it should be.

RE: baptists - I have no idea about them either but I do oddly follow a blogger on YouTube who is from a Baptist family. She chats away about having people over for lunch, meeting the churchgoers for coffee, looking after someone’s kids for them…it’s very wholesome and although her house (from where she films the vlog) always appears to be mental and chaotic, it’s a nice chaos. You’d never feel alone, that’s for sure.

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