Help please. We are scattering my Dad's ashes soon and we don't know what to do

[cruisemum1]

My lovely, lovely Dad passed away last month after a long and horrid battle with cancer. . We are scattering his ashes so that he can rest with his Mum, one of his sisters, niece and brother soon and we don't know what to do. Do we need a vicar? Do we just go along and scatter them ourselves? We really have no idea and we want it to be right. For my Dad and us. help please.

Sorry to hear about your dad cruisemum. This is the poem that I read at my dad's funeral; I think it's rather lovely:

Shifting the Sun

When your father dies, say the Irish,
you lose your umbrella against bad weather.
May his sun be your light, say the Armenians

When your father dies, say the Welsh,
you sink a foot deeper into the earth.
May you inherit his light, say the Armenians.

When your father dies, say the Canadians,
you run out of excuses.
May you inherit his sun, say the Armenians.

When your father dies, say the French,
you become your own father.
May you stand up in his light, say the Armenians.

When you father dies, say the Indians,
he comes back as the thunder.
May you inherit his light, say the Armenians.

When your father dies, say the Russians,
he takes your childhood with him.
May you inherit his light, say the Armenians.

When your father dies, say the English,
you join his club you vowed you wouldn't.
May you inherit his sun, say the Armenians.

When your father dies, say the Armenians,
your sun shifts forever.
And you walk in his light.

-- from Selected Poems by poet Diana Der-Hovanessian

midnight - thankyou - that is lovely . my Dad was a songwriter, musician and poet. i am thinking maybe we could use one of his own works. i loved him so much