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10 years is a long time

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Enko · 31/05/2025 18:36

Its 10 years today since my.mother passed.

We had a complicated relationship but there was love there too.

I can still recall her hugs vividly. Others speak more of her laughter and loud laugh. They are not so clear in my mind.

My sister wrote a post today on her social media, about how she misses her and how she doesn't find time heals more you get used to them being gone. I get her feelings but not so much w our mother. I think I was used.to her not being very present in my life (I live in a different counrty to them) before she passed, making the loss of a different kind.

Still 10 years is a long time and sometimes I'd like to speak with her.. she wasnt a bad person just a complex individial who I guess did her best but at times the best wasn't good enough for the daughter she was bringing up. (Parents divorced when I was 5 so I kinda grew up as an only child)

Grief is complex in so many ways. Today I can acknowledge I loved her but unlike my sister I dont feel that loss intensly. Im used to life without her and I am ok with that..

Not sure why I am writing this just felt the need to put it out there.

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WhiteWriting · 31/05/2025 20:59

Your feelings are valid and you express them beautifully. Grief is a funny old thing isn't it? The big anniversaries throw up all kinds of unresolved feelings. Take good care. x

Enko · 31/05/2025 22:15

Yes anniversaries do throw up unresolved feelings. Thats a good way to put it.

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