My mum

[Marshmallow201]

My mum died nearly 6 weeks ago and it all still feels unreal. Her funeral is on Wednesday and I'm dreading it! I'm 43 and I have been starting to feel more anxious around the time of my period and I think it's because I might be perimenopausal. And trying to cope with the death of my mum has seemed to make it all the more worse. I feel like the earth beneath my feet has literally been pulled away. I miss her so much! I miss chatting with her and I just feel so lost. Her death was sudden and out of the blue. And I feel guilty for feeling the way I do because I know she wouldn't want to cause me this pain. My 2 boys miss her and she adored them both so much. I worry about my dad and my brother. My brother doesn't like to talk much, he's always been like it. But that worries me. Dad is doing ok but I think he's worrying about me and my brother. I just keep feeling I'm going to wake up from a horrible dream!

I'm so sorry for the loss of your wonderful Mum, it's so hard and you are most probably still in shock. I hope you get through the funeral okay and you can get some comfort from family members. I lost my Mum last year and have felt I'm going crazy with the grief at times but the better days do come. Thinking of you x

I am so sorry you’ve lost your Mum, mine also died suddenly, in seconds, with no warning. She was literally in the middle of life still, 8 little granchildren who adored her, a full diary, loving and chatting and supporting us all every day. It was the most unbelievable shock, I feel your pain. I was 47, my sisters 46, 46 and 41. I found the funeral very comforting as there was so much love there, it uplifted me and helped me get through the next few weeks. I hope maybe you will find similar comfort. Remember she is still with you, in the way she made and shaped you. Sending condolences 💐

So sorry for your loss, I feel for you, its so hard. My dearest DM passed away out of the blue 9 weeks ago. We went from discussing her shopping list on the Monday to discussing end of life care on the Wednesday. I keep forgetting then remembering oh yes mum's not here. It takes a while to compute. I think about her all the time. I miss her terribly.

I didnt expect to find the funeral so comforting but it was. I feel grateful she had a full life up to the week before. Just have to take each day as it comes and talk about how you feel. Thinking of you.

So tough for you, OP. I am sorry for your great loss. Wishing you all the best, and will be thinking of you on Wednesday.

You have to take each day as it comes and forget all about yesterday.

Thank you all for your kind words ☺️ After the service I felt a huge amount of relief. I read a poem, and even though emotional, I managed to do it and hopefully do my Mum proud 🥲 It's like I could hear her saying, you can do it girlie! As she has done through my whole life ❤️ It was comforting to talk to family members and friends and hear some of the lovely memories they have her and how much they loved her. I hope, if she can, she was looking down on us today and enjoyed the send off - even though she would be saying "what's all this fuss for!" ☺️

So glad the day went well. Well done reading the poem. Hope you’re not feeling too sad tonight.