Dad has passed away. Deep fear of what will happen to my Mum.

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My Dad has passed away. I'm struggling.

My Mum is struggling physically and emotionally too. Refuses to leave the house without me there.

I have 4 siblings and I'm the only Daughter and the middle child. Everything on a daily basis has been left to me to sort out or arrange a solution.

Siblings refuse to help me as they have been brought up to think males don't need to help their aging parents. I ask for help. They ignore me. So now we just don't speak.

I can just about cope currently but my overwhelming thought is what will happen when it's time for my Mum to pass on?

I even went away for a weekend hoping my younger brother may at least visit my Mum for some social interaction for her, but no, nothing. Then I feel bad for going away and I keep thinking about the end of my Mum's life and what will happen if I'm not there.

My Mum won't ask them to do anything either so I know she's enabling this as well.

I am largely estranged from my siblings because of this and things that went on while my Dad was passing away.

I am so sorry you lost your dad. Did your siblings help at all at that point e.g. with arranging the funeral or visiting your mum then? It's outrageous that they think everything should be left to you.

Bet they won't be shy in taking inheritance when mum's gone though.
A bit of shopping,a coffee, help with practical stuff like online etc .
They should be pitching in to help.
Sorry you're being left with it all.

How old is your mum.amd how is her health apart from the difficulty going out alone?

2 of them visited but expected Mum and I to cook them meals, make drinks for them. Mum did of course. I did not. I said I was there to help

I arranged the entire funeral.

My eldest brother even said to me, when we were alone, that our Dad was a terrible father to him and that he wasn't bothered about him passing away. When I looked at him in disbelief, he just smiled as I believe he was just saying it to know that would hurt me even more.

She is late 70s. Struggles with arthritis and anxiety. Seems to yearn for company but then say she has an unexpected visitor, she complains about it.