Dad's anniversary coming up. Anyone wanna give ntt a hug?

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I'm feeling a bit sorry for myself. It's been 3 years but is still raw. It was an unexpected death and the week before was quite traumatic, watching him deteriorate with no certainty of the outcome. I'm thinking about it a lot just now - horrid dreams too.

Any hugs gratefully received!

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Don't know the story nicky, but you can have a slightly awkward hug from me. I hope the memories get less painful.

Thanks. I like a slightly awkward hug!

you can have a nice big fluffy cup-a-soup type hug from me

A big hug coming from me NTT. I always find the build up to an anniversary is worse than the actual day, so after all the turmoil and upset leading up to it, there is peace on the actual day. I hope this is the same for you xx

Yes, build up is worse, i think.

I'm glad I could get a tentaive smile from you [smile}

Big hug to you. Hope the memories start to become less painful.

Big hugs NTT - anniversary of my dad's death coming up too - 29 years ('twas a teenager at the time).

Thanks very much, y'all.
Am ok most of the time because of toddler keeping me busy, but a bit teary.

How ya doing, ntt?

Im still to face my Mums 1st anniversary, but can imagine how you must be feeling.

Sending you a huge cuddly hug.

hugs from here nicky

I haven't done hugs on MN yet, how about a wee pat on the shoulder and a kiss (no tongues) x

Was your dad too young, NTT? Mine lived longer than I expected him too, given his general state of health, but it was still a shock when he died. So have a hug from me. O.

I had a dream after he died, in which he and my mum were young again and helping me do something or other. It was quite a nice dream. Don't dread having dreams, just try to dwell on the good times. I hope you have many happy memories of him.

Ooh, more lovely messages! thank you.

I am a bit miserable actually, though we had a nice weekend. I'm a bit irritable with dh - poor man. I'm going through that "It's ok for you, having both parents" thingy. In reality, I know I'm really lucky in general, but hanging on to a wee bit of bitterness is giving me a strange comfort. Weird. I know I'll feel better when the date is past.

btw, he was 69. not young, but had been in great health until a week before his death - at least we were spared a lot of suffering - must be awful.

Sorry to hear you're feeling miserable. I'm sure your DH understands why you're being irritable - it's a perfectly human reaction.

I suppose these anniversaries are just days that have to be got through, by hook or by crook. Hopefully they'll get easier as time goes on.

rummages

I do apologise

oh dear - i do feel for you. my mum has just gone into a hospice this very morning and i'm so afraid.