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Crush after spouse died

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Chopsy70 · 22/03/2025 10:01

I lost my husband 5 months ago today. I've just gone on holiday and met an older man.
I'm really confused, there was nothing romantic but it feels like a crush. He was very similar to my husband albeit much older.
I've come home and I feel like I really miss him, then I feel guilty.
I don't know what to make of it at all. Is it just the grief? I want to contact him but my head says it would be a mistake. I don't want a relationship but it was nice spending time with someone new who seemed to get me. All at sea today?

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loryN22 · 25/05/2026 12:55

Chopsy70 · 22/03/2025 10:01

I lost my husband 5 months ago today. I've just gone on holiday and met an older man.
I'm really confused, there was nothing romantic but it feels like a crush. He was very similar to my husband albeit much older.
I've come home and I feel like I really miss him, then I feel guilty.
I don't know what to make of it at all. Is it just the grief? I want to contact him but my head says it would be a mistake. I don't want a relationship but it was nice spending time with someone new who seemed to get me. All at sea today?

Five months is so early, give yourself a break. Missing being understood and feeling guilty after enjoying someone’s company can exist at the same time. I wouldn’t treat one holiday connection like destiny or betrayal, maybe just proof that part of you is still alive.

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