Tips and advice for a widow with young kids

[VastOtter]

Hi
I posted here the other day about my DH’s sudden death on Sunday. I’d really appreciate it if anyone has practical tips on getting through, transitioning my kids back to school (school are fantastic, a lot of love and kindness, close community) and sensible orders to do things, stuff they did or wish they’d done after it or later regretted.
I don’t know how I’m doing it but I’m being strong, I think my husband gave me his strength because I was not this person 6 days ago.
thank you so much ❤️

Have you already found/been signposted to Winston's Wish? They have lots of good advice on supporting bereaved children.

What my DCs seemed to want most in the early days was as much normality and routine as possible, so they went back to school and nursery almost immediately. Unfortunately in our case DH's death meant we had to move countries, so within a few months they underwent another major upheaval, but I tried to keep things as normal as possible in the run-up to that. I also made sure I kept on talking about their father, so it didn't become a taboo subject.

You may find that lots of people want to come round and help and keep you company all the time, but the DCs may also need quiet time just with you, without lots of visitors in the house.

I found that focusing on practical stuff was what kept me going. It is very early days for you, so you don't need to rush into doing anything, except dealing with the most urgent bits of bureaucracy and funeral planning.