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Who will inform me of estranged father's death?

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GreyBear44 · 24/02/2025 20:42

Hello I am estranged from my dad and he lives in Europe. My mum died recently so my thoughts are turning to when my dad will die.
He is a recluse and there are no other family members living in the same country as him, so I am wondering how would I find out about his death when it does happen? He has always been very disorganised, so I doubt he will have made a will or left instructions about whom to contact.
He lives in a country where there is forced heirship, so when he dies I would have to officially accept or renounce his pile of debts. I am the kind of person who likes to tie up loose ends - I don't like to leave legal things open in case they impact on my daughter. I certainly don't want to be responsible for paying back his creditors.
Would his local authority track me down, do you think?

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MumChp · 25/02/2025 04:11

Most likely not.

blackice · 25/02/2025 04:26

MumChp · 25/02/2025 04:11

Most likely not.

yh, highly unlikely

marcopront · 25/02/2025 05:25

It might help if you told us the country

hakunahakuna · 25/02/2025 05:36

If you know his address you could contact his neighbours and tell them that you would like them to have your details in case of emergency!

LegoAirlines · 25/02/2025 07:06

hakunahakuna · 25/02/2025 05:36

If you know his address you could contact his neighbours and tell them that you would like them to have your details in case of emergency!

I only do this if you want calls when he's fallen over / had a power cut / locked himself out.

I know in Portugal the authorities do make some attempt to track down heirs, but I don't know how rigorous that is (or if it's the same where he is!)

FozzieWozzieWasABear · 23/03/2025 10:37

I had been non-contact with my mother for around 15 years before she died so was very surprised that she had listed me as her first contact. I got a call from the French hospital the day she died.

I would expect that your father will have someone down as nok so it might well be you.

Sorry for the loss of your mum. 💐

Edited for typos.

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