Colour of child's funeral tie

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My mother died recently and I am trying to sort out suitable clothes for my two sons (11 and 17) to wear to their granny's memorial service. (My mum opted for direct cremation so the memorial is just a small intimate close family thing). Both are wearing black suits and white shirts. Should my children both wear black ties, or, should they wear white ones? I have already bought a black tie for my eldest boy, however. Would it be strange for one to wear black and one white tie? Or should I just get them both to wear black tie? I Googled this which put a spanner in the works as Google says kids should wear white ties if it is close family. My mum was a stickler for things being done properly so I want to get it right.

No tie sound easiest? Or if you really want them can they not both wear white ties?

Do they have school ties?
Black suits and black ties are very formal mourning attire which if everyone is fully in black would be best, but that's pretty unusual in my recent experience of funerals.
Sorry for your loss. I'm sure your Mum would be proud of them in suits and ties of any form.

No tie is not an option, my mum would have wanted them to look tip top!! 😄

I would go for black ties for both if thats what the adults will be wearing, never heard of white ties for funerals tbh. You also have to remember she has done things slightly differently from the rules by having a direct cremation so definitely leeway there. So sorry for your loss.

My son wore a yellow one "because Grandma liked yellow"
My nephews didn't wear one at all

They don't have ties in their school uniform, no

I’d go for black ties also.

Why not both white ties then OP?

Well go black then
I've never heard of white ties for a funeral

I’d go for black, OP.
Sorry for your loss x

I never heard of white ties for kids for funeral either until I Googled it! I think I'll go for black tie for both then, thanks everyone for your help and kind words of condolence

White ties might look a bit strange - if those are the options, deff black.

I've never seen any child wearing a white tie at a funeral op. Black in our family

I've not heard of white ties for funerals. Black, or a dark colour are more usual, unless as a previous poster suggested, granny liked a specific colour so then everyone wears an accessory in that colour.
Sorry for your loss.

White ties would look weird. Any darkish colour or pattern will be fine. They don't have to match

I have never heard of white ties either
Always solid black ties (and sometimes black armband to denote family) and less formal may have a small dark colour thread or a dark navy to match a dark navy suit.

Sorry for your loss

Black is less common for funerals now, dark colours navy or grey and smart. If you already have black suits maybe dark grey or navy ties to make it a bit less bleak. Last funeral I went to, I was practically the only person wearing mainly black.