Grief

[AuntieMarys]

It's awful.isn't it...one minute you're laughing at Amandaland and then it hits you that you can't share it with them.....
18 weeks on from dc's suicide and it is so raw. Not helped by a broken shoulder which is limiting my independence and making me even angrier.
On the positive side I've started counselling, exercising regularly, sleeping well and have a wonderful dh and friends.

I'm so sorry for your loss OP. That's just heartbreaking. 💐

This is so desperately sad

I am so very sorry for your loss. I can't even start to begin to imagine the pain you are feeling right now. Heartbreaking 💔

Good for you for taking positive steps and I am glad you have a good support system, you are certainly going to need them as you navigate through your new life without your DC. Its very early days so be kind to yourself. Counseling helped me come to terms with my Mums untimely sudden death so I hope that it helps you in some way.

I'm so, so very sorry for your loss. I can't imagine your heartbreak.

It's really shit but the good news is my shoulder is healing quickly ! I'm having full bloods at the doctors as I want to make sure I'm not lacking anything. So important to be well at this time.
I'm reading lots of books, playing lots of music and making plans for this year. I redid my will last week which was tough and have POAs to cancel and redo for myself.

It sounds so tough @AuntieMarys and sounds like you are doing all the right things, frankly if you can get out of bed in the morning and put one foot in front of the other then you're doing amazingly well. Losing a child is incomprehensible and life just doesn't seem fair 💚

I had 2 days of being catatonic and knew I had to pull myself out of it. Everyday I get up at 6, shower ( onehanded!) , get dressed, exercise of some description. I also mention him every day to someone...might be a total stranger...not about his death, but about something he enjoyed or did.
And when I'm asked how many dc I have, I say 2 . Not 1.

I'm glad to hear your shoulder is healing, I fractured mine a year or so ago and well remember how incapacitated I felt. Not what you need on top of the grief you are dealing with now. It sounds like you're being kind to yourself which is very important. You must be feeling absolutely blindsided by what's happened.

So very sorry for your loss, that so tragic. But don't bury your grief too much. I did all that when I lost my mum suddenly, then had a meltdown a year later. Don't ever stop talking about him though, that helps a lot.
Hope your shoulder is mended soon too 💐

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Grief and grieving is a very individual thing, so don't feel that you have to do it in any particular way, or order.

Please tell us about him OP, what is his name, how old was he? What was his favourite meal out of all you cooked him?

Have you heard of or seen the ball in the box theory on grief? I'll see if I can find it... xx

Here it is 'The Ball and The Box" theory on grief x

So so sorry for your loss x 💐🫂🙏

So sorry for your loss, but pleased your shoulder is healing. Everyone is different but from my days working in bereavement counselling, I do recommend connecting with others who have experienced similar loss, if you haven't experienced this it can be hard to really understand the complexity of the grief. I would say the same for other situations too, but you need to find the right group.

Take care of yourself