My husband of 16 years died ten days ago. He died suddenly, and was well three days before being admitted to hospital. We the family didn't realise (weren't told) how serious it was, and had no opportunity to say things that needed saying before he was put into an induced coma, from which he never emerged. It was sudden, unexpected, and traumatic.
He had a drinking problem and we separated 18 months ago. He made this exceptionally difficult and did not accept it.
I still loved him and only wanted him to be okay, but I feel he did not got over the end of the relationship.
I feel crushed by guilt and grief. I'm devastated. To make already complicated grief even more complicated, there is a distinct whiff of negligence on behalf of the hospital where he was admitted.
I have been signed off for eight weeks by my GP on the condition I get bereavement counselling.
When I present my sick note, I know my workplace and going to challenge it and be difficult about it.
Can they force me back before eight weeks? I have been working for 30 years and have never had a sick note before, so I don't have any experience with this.
I am not sleeping or eating and am constantly on the edge of bursting into tears.
Thank you in advance for your wisdom. 🙏