Sympathy card

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Looking for some advice. My DIL's stepmum's mother has died. I'm close to my DIL, her Dad and Stepmum and have already texted but intend to send a sympathy card too. I can't decide whether I should address it to just the Stepmum or to the Stepmum and Dad?

I think just the stepmum, it's her mother. You could say - sympathy to you and your family on your loss?

assuming they’re married/cohabiting, I’d do both. Most people mourn their in-laws and have a relationship with them. I’d find it bizarre if you excluded the husband from the card

I wouldn't think it bizarre at all. When my father died people sent cards to me, not me and my husband. That's quite normal I think.

Interesting. Definitely not my experience and I’d find it odd especially if in a long-term relationship.

If you know them both, put the card to both. When my dad died people who didn't know my OH didn't put his name

Thank you for the responses. The advice was very useful - I decided to address the envelope just to the step mum but write the message inside to Stepmum, partner and family.