Lost my mum today will I ever stop crying?

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My mum died today aged 91. I am 72 and I am devastated at her loss. How can I move on?

I’m so sorry. I didn’t have a lovely mum. Even then, I still felt like an orphan when she passed. You are both lucky to have been so very loved.

I’m so sorry
You’re in shock. Look after yourself. Sweet tea. Keep warm.

Oh, This is heartbreaking. I'm so very sorry that you've lost your lovely mum.

sending love and strength to you.

i am so very sorry for your loss.

You don’t need to be thinking about moving on right now. One step at a time, day by day. Keep eating and drinking, water at the very least.

Keep things very small and simple for now. If you can wash your face after crying and maybe put some face cream on sometimes, you will hopefully not get sore.

Are there practicalities that you need to sort?

i’m so sorry. My relationship w my Mum only got mended right at end of her life. I still felt stunned by her death even though it was inevitable.

Sorry to trot out cliche but time is a great healer. It does hurt so much after but the business of closing up her bank accounts etc (tell us once?) and selling house if applicable takes time. It’s almost as you move into phase 2, being custodian of her affairs unless your dad is alive.

Please don’t think I underestimate how your grief is affecting you. Thinking of you and sending you cyber hugs x

Ohhhhh, I am so, so sorry to hear this. I was utterly devastated when mine died, and since then I've lost my dad and my husband left me, but nothing has been as bad as losing her.

I so empathise with you. I know this is a huge cliche, but the only thing that will help is time.

As the months go on, something that helps is staying busy - not all the time, but periods of productivity will really help you, while too much sitting and thinking will not. Also, it's OK to take a break from your feelings of bereavement by watching something funny.

But all that is down the road for you. This has JUST happened and you will be essentially ill from bereavement for the next few weeks. That's how you have to think of yourself right now - as being ill.

I send you my deepest condolences. There is no bond like the bond between a loving mother and daughter.

Lastly, please know that it WILL get better, even if it seems unlikely now.

No one can replace a mother ❤️ I'm so sorry for your loss 😞 my mum's currently in hospital and the thought of losing her is unbearable. Sending you lots of love ❤️ 🙏

I am sorry for your sad loss. 💐You will move on, life goes on, but it takes time, it is very early days, so please be gentle with yourself. Make yourself a cuppa and get back into bed with it. Do you want to tell us more about your Mum?

So sorry for your loss op. Its only been hours, let yourself feel and just be for however long it takes. Talk on here if you want to let anything out. Be kind to yourself it will get easier in time.

Let yourself cry for now. The grief is worse if you try to power through.

with time, it will get easier. There will come a day where you don’t cry at all. Then a week. Then a month. Then one day out of the blue you will cry randomly. Those days will become fewer and fewer over the years.

losing your mother is hard no matter when it happens.

I’m sad for your loss. It’s the most terrible loss when our mums go. Take each day as it comes and be prepared to feel rubbish for quite some time. One of my friends gave me some good advice - do one thing a day to nourish yourself, even if you don’t want to. Light a fire and watch a film / make a soup / wrap up and go for a walk somewhere scenic / have a hot bath with some lovely scented bubble bath / do a yoga class. You won’t want to do any of those things yet, but try them anyway, as they’ll benefit you as time goes on. 💐

I'm very sorry for your loss, OP. You will move on and feel better but it's much too soon even to try. Just feel whatever you're feeling, and if it's possible to gather loved ones around you, do that; or if not keep yourself warm, have some hot drinks, and maybe put on music or a TV programme that you used to share with your mum.

It's still incredibly early and no matter what age you are she is still your mum.

My sister died suddenly a couple of weeks ago, I cried from 3 days solid. I still cry really easily about it.

I will get over it, as will you, but cut yourself a bit of slack. Everyone understands.

I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my Mum in 2017 and it still hurts. However, I lost my 21 year old daughter 2 months ago, the pain from that is like nothing else.
Please look after yourself, do small tasks, do things you enjoy.