Since my …. Passed away, I really miss … ( add yours)

[LoudPlumDog]

Since my 21 year old daughter passed away 8 weeks ago, I really miss:

the banter we shared, lots of inside jokes
the early morning (4am) chats in the car when I took her to work
the foot massages she gave me
tucking me into bed when I had a migraine, kissing me on the head and putting some soft classical music on

There are obviously plenty more, these are just some that pop into my mind daily.

What do you miss about someone you have lost?

Since my dad died I miss having someone completely on my side. We had different views, opinions and talents (he never did get my art!) but just utterly had my back. Not sycophantic, it wasn’t that I could do no wrong, but just gave me the feeling of security.

Since my brother died 20 years ago, I don’t know what I miss anymore 🙁it’s been such a long time and my life is so different to when he died. I miss that he doesn’t know anything about my life - he never met my husband or my son. And he knew my whole childhood and we shared that life, and I miss that we don’t anymore.

I’m lucky that my mum is still alive, but I’m very sad sometimes.

I’m so sorry for everyone’s losses 💛💛

I’m so sorry for all your losses, particularly those who have lost their children.

It’s a long time since my dad died but I really miss not being able to fill in gaps in family history, e.g. if I find an old photo. A lot of the knowledge died with him and my grandparents.

I also miss not being able to update him on my kids’ sporting achievements. He would be so proud of them

Since my DM died last year, I miss playing backgammon. She remains in the lead in our score book.

Your daughter sounds wonderful @LoudPlumDog, thank you for sharing such lovely memories.

I miss my Dad, miss that feeling of always having an anchor.

My DS passed away seven years ago aged 10.

I miss absolutely everything about him.

I miss his smile and cheeky giggle.

I miss his dry dark humour.

I miss his voice.

I miss his hugs and kisses.

I miss telling him off for spending too much time on his xbox.

I miss his naughtiness.

I miss arguing with him about not eating enough or too much crap.

I miss watching films with him.

I miss him arguing with his sisters.

I just miss him and there are soooooo many things that I miss about him. It doesn't get any easier.

Sending love to all those on this thread, I'm so sorry to hear of all your losses.
Since my beautiful bestie passed away far too early from cancer, I really miss the joy and laughter she brought everyone she met and I miss who I was when she was in my life (sometimes I feel that my natural setting is "pessimistic grouch" but I never felt that way when I was with her). She was fiercely intelligent, kind and caring - I looked up to her so much. I miss her company and presence, I wish she could have met my DD (who is named for her) and am so sad for all the time we should have had and places we should have been able to go together.

Since my best friend died nearly two years ago, I miss sending him my daily Wordle results and silly Instagram reels.

Meant to say that I did carry on sharing for a while but seems silly now and scared for the day to come when the message won't deliver or someone new has the number.

Sorry for your loss PLUMDOG.

l miss my daughter who passed 10 years ago aged 26. I miss her smile, her laugh, her presence. The enormous hole in our lives that nothing can ever fill💔

I'm so sorry for everyone that has lost someone close, especially those who have lost a child I can't even begin to imagine the pain and sadness which comes with that 😥 it's lovely to read what everyone misses about their loved ones.

I miss my Mum's laugh and the way she said my name as it came with so much love every time

I just miss my Dad. Big hugs to everyone x

Since my godmother died I miss feeling like I was really, truly loved by someone for just being me

My husband died 3 months ago.
I miss his presence so much & feel very alone in spite of having wonderful children & friends, it the absence. Noone to just "be" with.
I miss his love. He loved me so very much & I him

Since my BIL died, I miss the long rambling talks (always full of charm!).

Since my friends died (we all lived together including BIL, I introduced him to my sister) I miss the banter and the laughs and feeling like someone 'got me'. I've never been able to even come close to that feeling of belonging.

My son.

Today I have missed his smell.
His face.
His hair.
His cuddles.
His company.
Showing him the feeder I got for the birds.
Saying his name and it not physically hurting.

Of course it can be your dog. I'm sorry for your loss and I'm sorry for everyone else's losses too.

Since my wife died I miss:

making her a coffee in the morning
Seeing her laugh until she couldn't speak
Dancing with her - although I have 2 left feet - she danced with complete abandon
Talking to her about everything and nothing
Falling asleep every night, spooned together
Our life and future together
She filled me with joy. I couldn't believe that she picked me

I still have her last shopping list stuck on the fridge with all the ingredients for a Christmas cake. 4 years ago

More beautiful stories.

Of course dogs ( or anything else) counts. I would be really lost with my pets. The dogs never leave my side when I’m home. X

I'm in tears reading some of these. I'm so sorry for all your losses. I miss my stepfather (he raised me with my mum from aged 9 and I don't have a relationship with my bio dad so to me he was my dad). He died 3 years ago and I miss his laugh, his voice, the way he made me feel safe. He was one of my favourite people on earth. He had such warmth in his voice and his eyes whenever he spoke. I'm so scared I'll forget what he sounded like. I miss him every single day.

Since my mum and granny both died in 2023 I miss everything about them. I miss their unconditional love and support. I feel lost without them. They were my go to for anything and everything. Always there for advice and to reassure me. I miss phoning my mum just to chat crap to her or ask her silly questions, questions about cooking, questions about how to do such and such. I miss hearing their voices, seeing their smiles, their laughs, their silliness. Not being able to talk to them about worries or concerns I have. I miss our weekly shopping trips, I can't even go to the town we use to shop in as it's so triggering. I wish I had more time with them. My mum was only 60 taken from us far too soon. My whole world imploded when she died. I miss them more than I can even put into words, there is just a massive gap where she was. There is nothing like a mother and grandmothers love ❤️ especially such amazing ones as mine. Sorry to all those who are struggling and missing their loved ones xx

My lovely husband left us just before Christmas and I can't believe it. He was ill and it wasn't unexpected but its such a shock to realise he's gone. We were together for nearly 40 years and had our ups and downs but we were each others rocks. We made each other laugh and I will miss all the in jokes and shorthand comments, we just got each other and I can't believe it's over. We were lucky in so many ways and in time I'm sure it will be a comfort. But right now I'm heartbroken

@MrsBirkett I'm so sorry for your loss, I'm sure you feel like part of you is missing. I hope in time it gets easier for you. It's so hard to carry on x

For me, it is my adopted sister, or “sister of circumstance” as she used to phrase it.
Our unusual and difficult childhoods gave us a unique understanding that I experienced with no one else. She grew into a strong resilient woman with a steady outlook and spirituality. We talked about anything and everything, supported each other practically and emotionally, and on quests to recover our pasts.
We discussed for about a year her decision to euthanise herself after a diagnosis, with her acquiescing to my requests to try new treatments first, but then me having to respect her choice to go.
I miss her, I thought we'd be terrible old ladies together for a bit longer.

I am sorry for everyone that is missing their lost loved ones. 💐

Since My dad passed away unexpectedly before Christmas, I really miss him being at my house every evening for a cup of tea when I got home from work, him asking how my day was, him being the best grandfather to DC and knowing that he was always a phone call away for me if I needed anything. I'm devastated.

Since my sister died I miss being with someone who understands me completely; spider dancing; making the same daft faces at each other; laughing to the point of crying; her hugs; having adventures (which always included coffee and cake); voice notes and funny texts - and just knowing that she's there and always on my side.

Hugs to all x

I'm so sorry for everyone's loss💐. The words and memories everyone has shared are so beautiful and brought a lump to my throat.

Since my 18 year old ds passed away I really miss:

• his place at the dinner table or restaurant when we share a family meal
• his hugs (despite being a teen he was always happy to give and receive a hug)
• telling him off for spending far too much time gaming!
• watching a movie together
• the way he would excitedly bound through the front door and show me the latest cool clothes he got from the charity shops
• building Lego sets with him (it's not the same without him, and he would have loved the great sets that keep coming out now)
• bumping into him on the way home and having a good chat until we reached the front door. (Even though I know he is gone, I still look out for him which is nuts I know)
• washing his dirty football kits
• our chats
• the way he would squeal when I tickled him
• the future he could have had
• the way our life was 'normal' before. Losing a child impacts everyone 😔