The weird things that set you off...

[theweirdthings]

My little one is poorly and I just looked at him and thought 'If Mum were here she'd be emailing everyday to ask how he's doing and gushing about how much she loves him.' And I had a little cry while he watches telly. She never met him, which makes me so sad.

Just wanted to share. And send love to those who have these moments too.

When someone called me ‘dear’ in a shop. Didn’t cry when mum died, but that floored me.

love lives on.

@Itcantgetanycolder it does. Funny how you can hate but also welcome those moments in a strange way.

Buying leeks in the supermarket earlier this week. I remembered being with my mum when she sorted through and examined every pack and I just felt so so sad remembering and knowing that it's something that I'll never do ever again. People round me must have thought I was odd, stood there in the veg aisle with tears running down my cheeks. It never seems to get any easier.

My Dad died in 2021 so we have spent 4 Christmases without him. Every year I am floored by making the turkey sandwiches on the evening of Christmas Day. He and I had done that together every year for as long as I can remember. It was just a chore that we did together but now I cry into the stuffing.
I also completely lost it at a panettone in Waitrose last month. I barely ever go to Waitrose. I never buy panettone but it's what my mum used to make his favourite Boxing Day trifle. I was shocked at myself. We had the trifle this year for the first time since he died and I cried at every delicious mouthful.

When I buy a packet of polo mints for a long journey. My mum was never without them. Sending hugs to you all x

I was looking at some gifts in a chemist today and they had some gift sets with Dad written on them. My dc used to love buying things like that for their dad for his birthday etc but it stopped abruptly when they were 11 and 13 when he died suddenly and we ended up putting Father's Day presents in his coffin as his funeral was just before it. I guess they're lucky they had such a wonderful dad for the time they did, but you can never replace the love of a parent and im their only parent now.

My mum died two years ago on the 6th. Bloody snow made me think of her, she hated it, always used to phone. ‘Got any snow?’

When I heard the ed Sheeran song on the radio that was played at my dear sisters funeral.

she really had a love with her dh and that song was such a reminder of the bond they shared.

@PoppyLupin Hope your children are ok xx

It's nearly 2 years since my Dad passed away and I feel so unstable this month. Anything seems to set me off - he always use to say to my children that he had a pet robin in his garden, so whenever I see one I think of him. One flew in front of me the other morning when walking the dogs and just sat watching me from the hedge...... I walked home with tears pouring down my face.

I don't think I'll ever get used to living without him.

Sending hugs to all of you.

Life is really about the small moments, isn't it. The things we'll never know were significant until later on.

@PoppyLupin I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you're all doing ok. I lost my dad as a teenager so I feel for your children, and for you.

@Mymanyellow my Mum and I would have had a good old chat about the snow too! Weather was always an important subject of conversation.

I can relate to this so, so much.
For me it was lamb chops in Marks and Spencers that were the "trigger".

Life is so cruel and unfair sometimes.

Wine gums. Used to get them for my dad every birthday/christmas/Father’s Day. Get a lump in my throat when I see them in M&S now.

Might buy myself a bag this Father’s Day and enjoy a good cry as I eat them, sometimes that’s all you can do!

Loads, Usually songs.
No one in our house likes the strawberry or orange creams from the big tin of roses at Christmas time so we would save them for my Dad.
He died just over two years ago, 2nd January 2023.
When I was digging out the Christmas things at the start of December just gone, I opened a box and found umpteen strawberry and orange creams that we must have saved for him over Christmas 22 but never got the chance to give him.

I was in the floor sobbing about some bloody chocolates.

So many things ....

Certain songs and their lyrics.

Going to the supermarket and seeing their favourite foods as mentioned by @Wingedharpy and @MissMarplesNiece .

Seeing school kids coming home from school, knowing once upon a time my ds was just like them until it all suddenly ended.

The empty seat at the dinner table (he always sat in the same chair and no-one else in the family ever sits at that place).