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My Grandma is dying :-(

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alibobins · 02/05/2008 20:18

The hospital have phoned and said she hasn't got long left

Going now don't really know what to say to her she's not really with it

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moondog · 02/05/2008 20:23

Just be with her and tell her you love her.
She'll hear you, I promise.
So sorry.

chocolatespiders · 02/05/2008 20:24

just talk to here... tell her what you have been doing and what your family have been doing
and tell how much you care about her etc..
and how you have loved spending time with her.. reminise about old times?

all the best... and sorry to hear she is not well...

lilymolly · 02/05/2008 20:24

sorry to hear this. hope its peaceful and she is not in too much pain.

Just hold her hand and tell her you love her, or talk about happy times, i am sure she will hear you x

BoysAreLikeDogs · 02/05/2008 20:25

So sorry

serendippity · 02/05/2008 20:25

I am sorry alibobins.
Just chat to her, hold her hand and say goodbye. I know it's tough.

Hobo · 02/05/2008 20:29

So sorry.

RubySlippers · 02/05/2008 20:31

am so sorry

my lovely grandma died last week

go to her - you won't regret that

tell her you love her, that you will always remember her

bogwobbit · 02/05/2008 20:31

So sorry alibobins. I went through this last year with my dad and it was really tough.
I would just echo what everyone has said; be with her, talk to her, tell her you love her, say goodbye. I think she'll know you're there and be glad of it.

cluttercup · 02/05/2008 20:33
  • again just do and say what feels right. The nicest thing for her will be having you there x
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alibobins · 03/05/2008 09:59

Well she's still holding on
Going again soon

Thanks for all your kind words it really helped.

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WrongSideOfTwenty · 04/05/2008 19:19

My heart went out to you when I read this thread ali. This was me last month. I know what you are going through. When she is gone it will be a comfort to you to know that you were there near the end and I'm sure she knows you are there when you visit.

My Gran was a fighter too, it's not easy to deal with though when you know it is going to happen. Thinking of you

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alibobins · 04/05/2008 20:43

She finally let go at 12 today it was really peaceful at the time and I was there holding her hand

It's now that it hit me that I will never see her again and that we had to leave her I wanted to stay with her forever

Just can't get that last breath out of my head

I feel lost

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2childrenandit · 04/05/2008 20:49

Thinking of you alibobbins - lost my owngrandma in Feb and it still hurts - when I think of her last moments. However I can look back at all the times she spent together, ahppy memories, times with the dc, my mum and her. Try not to ficus on her end on this earth. but the itme she spent here and the effects she had on your life. That ending bt will fade in time - at the moment its so fresh, but in due course you will be able to remember the best bits and these will be the clearest memories. From experience I would say let youreself start to grieve now - dont bottle it up or try and be so strong for everyone else that you dont start trying to come to terms with her passing now - I tried to be so strong for my mum that my own garnys death i only really just starting to hit home - yes she will leavea massive gap in your (and everyones) lives but the gap wont be as massive as if you had never known her. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this very sad time - xx

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 04/05/2008 20:57

So sorry for your loss.

Your grandma's last breath will stay in your head for a while, but believe me that will slowly change and you will remember her how she really was xx

MotherOfGirls · 04/05/2008 21:07

Reading these messages I have tears streaming down my face. I feel so sad for you. I lost my Grandma almost 3 years ago and I don't think I'll ever stop missing her.

The comfort I have is that I was so lucky to have such a strong and special lady in my life. Lots of the things I do and say reflect her influence and I am so proud to be her grandaughter.

Those of us with such wonderful Grandmas will always have them with us, in some way.

I am so sorry for your loss and hope you will be able to treasure the good memories of your time together.

singyswife · 04/05/2008 21:38

Sorry for your loss. This was me in January too. We got the phone call and rushed to the hospital but ny the time we got there it was too late. At least you were there and were able to say goodbye. I still miss my gran terribly but I can share happy times with my dc's which helps to remember her for who she was. Sorry for your loss. It will get easier.

queenrollo · 05/05/2008 09:31

it will be three years in September that i lost my beautiful much loved Grandmother.....i was so incredibly close to her and still miss her like crazy, but have wonderful memories of times with her, some of which make me laugh out loud. In the aftermath of her death i never thought it possible to think of her again without the pain, but it does fade....

Thinking of you at this sad time.

WrongSideOfTwenty · 05/05/2008 09:39

I am so sorry for your loss. I went to see my Gran before her funeral and it helped me to see her peaceful, helped to get the images of her struggling for breath out of my mind.

Thinking of you and your family xxx

RubySlippers · 05/05/2008 09:40

i am very sorry for your loss

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