My brother has died

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My DB(58) passed away early Xmas Eve morning in USA.

He's a widower with a 17yo SN son, who is being cared for by his maternal grandparents.

Not sure what I want from posting this really. There are so many things to sort out, but I just feel paralysed at the moment and don't know where to start. I'm Autistic and tend to internalise everything, and I feel utterly bereft.

I’m so very sorry to hear of your lost. It must be very overwhelming, especially being so far away. Please be gentle with yourself. I will be thinking of you.

So sorry for your loss, I think you need to take a bit of time for yourself. Do you really need to start sorting anything out straight away? Or if there’s a bunch of things would it help to just prioritise them so you can do what’s necessary but leave the rest? Do you have other people who can help and support you?

So sorry for your loss. Sending you a gentle hug.

Firstly, I'm sorry for your loss OP. Who is your DB's next of kin? If it's you, I'm sure there are lots of things you can do over the phone. Boxing Day is not a holiday in the US, so everyone will (at least in theory) be working today. If he was ordinarily resident in the US presumably he will remain there and be buried/cremated there. Do you have anyone in the US who can help you to figure out what you need to do, if this falls to you?

I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you have lots of support and so sorry you are going through this. Virtual hugs and support ❤️

So sorry for your loss 💐 losing a sibling is a very particular kind of grief as I know. You’re probably in shock now so don’t feel compelled to get things done today. Take one step at a time. I hope you have support around you x

To answer a few questions:
I am his next of kin. We have no siblings apart from each other. Our parents died a while ago.
He and his son lived in the same house as his in-laws who have been wonderful. They are still caring for his son.
I have family here who are supporting me as best as they can. Slightly tricky because we are all ND in various ways.
I have spoken to the funeral director today and they will arrange his cremation. I am heading out there in a few days.
I'm numb. I just can't believe he is gone.

I am very sorry OP, I lost my brother a few years ago.

Do you want to tell us a bit about him?

I am sorry for your loss. Will his son stay with the grandparents?

I’m so very sorry. That is such a young age. Thank goodness his parents are able to look after his son. I hope you have support to help you deal with this. Sending hugs and strength 💕💕