Blamed for stroke

[HonestBeaker]

My mum died recently and there has been some family upset over her not wanting a funeral. My relationship with my sister has never been great but she has recently blamed me for upsetting her so much that I am the cause of her recent stroke - a stroke which has not been confirmed by doctors. She has a history of health anxiety. I’m shocked by this and feel she’s doing it for attention.

I'm so sorry for your loss, people act in strange ways when they are grieving. I'm sure your sister doesn't mean what she says.
My Mum didn't have a funeral either and I found that quite hard, although I respect her wishes.

The upset about your mum not having had a funeral may have caused your sister to be unwell but that doesn't mean that you caused it.

My mum died in the summer and she didn't have a funeral either. I eventually gave in to pressure and we had a memorial celebration a few months later but it was as far removed from a funeral as we could make it - all her old friends together eating cake, looking at photos and talking about our memories.

There's nothing to stop you or your sister doing that in the future. I honestly think with the cost of living (and dying) increasing all the time it may become much more normal.

She's doing it for attention, and to manipulate you into doing what she wants.

Sorry for your loss.