And again

[Bixterret]

I lost my husband 5 years ago. Met someone a couple of years ago, lovely man, we get on so well. Today he's had a diagnosis of 6 months. I'm devastated to say the least. Am distraught and don't know if I have the strength to go through this again. Bloody cancer, I hate cancer.

@Bixterret
I'm so sorry to read this. Unfortunately I have read threads where this has happened to other posters. Does he have other family to support him? Could you talk about your feelings to a MacMillan counsellor?
My DH was diagnosed with cancer nearly 5 years ago and is ok at the moment, but it's always at the back of my mind that it's likely to change at some point, as he was stage 4.

@Bixterret sorry to hear this. three things

you will get through this. you are stronger than you know. we all are.

don't mistake triggered grief for your husband for grief for your new partner's diagnosis. it's easily done but they aren't the same.

be prepared for unhelpful grief advice and mentally discard anything that doesn't work for you if you can. only people who have been through grief really understand it and understand how all grief is different and we all grieve differently.

@DianaRiggsCatsuit

Yes he has two sons snd today he's gone to stay with one of them. I'm sorry about your husband, I hope for the best for him.

@WeArentInKansas
At the moment I don't feel strong, just sad and angry. I understand about grieving and advice, given in good faith. When I lost my husband I was the first in my friend group to lose a spouse. No one really understood what I was feeling. But I met a new friend through a bereavement group snd we supported one another.

you will get through this. you are stronger than you know. we all are.

don't mistake triggered grief for your husband for grief for your new partner's diagnosis. it's easily done but they aren't the same.

be prepared for unhelpful grief advice and mentally discard anything that doesn't work for you if you can. only people who have been through grief really understand it and understand how all grief is different and we all grieve differently.