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1 year on. My friend

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Enko · 17/10/2024 20:11

Today it's 1 year since my last communication with my lovely friend. On Sunday it's 1 year since she suddenly passed. I think about her almost every day. Our lives had brought distance between us but she and I had one of those core friendships where each time we met up it was like no time had passed. A loss like that leaves a lot of space in your heart.

I speak of her often w my children whom called her aunt.. one of those wonderful honorary aunts that 100% becomes your aunt.. blood is not needed.

I spoke with her husband today they have lovely plans for Sunday including space for hugs and tears.. but for me today is the marked day and it was just a thumbs up from her. I sent her the video of my oldest getting engaged. It warms me to know she knew dd1 was happy. I loved knowing when her children were too..

No real point in posting this. I just wanted to mark the day in a way that doesn't take the shine away from dd1 and her wonderful engagement last year. On the quiet and acknowledge that I miss her still always will..

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Esmejean · 17/10/2024 20:27

Your friend sounds like a wonderful person. I lost my lifetime best friend in June, just over 2 months after being diagnosed with cancer. She was 53. I miss her so much and think of her most days. It still feels quite surreal. Life doesn’t make sense sometimes and I know there’s no making sense of this. When we are lucky enough to have had friends like this in life, I guess we just have to count our blessings and do them proud in living our lives with them in our hearts 💕

stichguru · 17/10/2024 20:28

Acknowledging your feelings. 4th Jan next year will be my birthday and my best friend (and birthday twin's) second heavenly birthday (the first being a couple of weeks after her death aged 40). It's hard.

Enko · 17/10/2024 20:48

Thank you@Esmejean and @stichguru. And yes it's both hard to deal with and wonderful to know such friendship exist in your life.. as even though they have passed on a piece of then remains inside of us.

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warmcookiedough · 30/12/2024 23:16

I am going through this now 😔 I have just found out my close friend has passed just days after we last messaged. I am shocked and so sad. We spoke weekly and due to distance only met when we could.
I can't believe she's gone she was also a none blood family member and adored my children.
The want to message her is crippling. I've never lost a friend before and I'm just so sad 😞 thankyou for your post OP and sorry about your friend It's awful isn't it.

Enko · 31/12/2024 19:58

warmcookiedough · 30/12/2024 23:16

I am going through this now 😔 I have just found out my close friend has passed just days after we last messaged. I am shocked and so sad. We spoke weekly and due to distance only met when we could.
I can't believe she's gone she was also a none blood family member and adored my children.
The want to message her is crippling. I've never lost a friend before and I'm just so sad 😞 thankyou for your post OP and sorry about your friend It's awful isn't it.

It's really awful. I am a yearnon and her loss is still so intense. I miss her so. You have a long road ahead of you but I always take comfort in knowing that the tears and longing is love with nowhere to go.

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