My dad has passed away

[Austrianmilk]

Hey, I'm not sure if writing this down will help but I want to get out my thoughts and feelings.

My precious dad passed away two days ago after being told he was end of life a mere 5 days prior. He was 84 and did have a lot of health issues but still lived independently with carers twice a day. I live two streets away and since my darling mum passed away 5 years ago I have visited my dad every day.

I've taken him away on holiday every year and spent every Christmas with him. He was a humble and kind man who always spoke truthfully and loved a joke and a giggle.

I now have this huge void in my life and I feel very alone. I've got family and friends around me but to think I'll never see or speak to him again makes me feel so unbelievably sad and empty.

Sorry for the ramble but thank you for listening.

I am so very sorry to hear about the sad loss of your father.
He sounds like a dear man.
You must be in such shock it all happened so soon for you.
Thinking of you. ❤️

I'm sorry to hear about your dad. 💐

He sounds like a wonderful man and you were lucky to have him in your life. You must be in shock as it happened so quickly. I'm glad to hear you've got support.

Try to look after yourself and take it a day at a time.

He sounds lovely

He was very lucky to have you in his life

You must be truly devastated

You sound like a wonderful daughter to your dead dad. So so sorry OP.
May he rest in peace, and rise in glory.

He sounds like a lovely man and you sound like a lovely daughter. You hear so many sad stories about relationships on Mumsnet it reminds you just how precious normal loving relationships are.

I’m sorry you’ve lost your dear dad. No wonder you feel lost he was obviously a lovely man and an important part of your life. Let yourself feel the emotions that come and when you are able to remember the shared experiences and fun.
look after yourself and allow others to help support you.

take care

Thank you everyone 🙏 your words of comfort means a lot 💓

I’m so sorry for your loss. I think sharing your feelings and allowing yourself to grieve is the only way forward. It’s very hard

I'm very sorry for your loss.

If you can, try to allow yourself little rest breaks in between the strong waves of emotions. This will allow some of your pain to begin draining away so you can carry the happy memories without it hurting so much.

And don't forget to eat or sleep, even if it's smaller meals or snacks. It's easy to forget in the early days. 💐

I'm sorry for your loss. You sound like an amazing daughter.
Take care of yourself please 💕

Thank you all. I can't get over just how exhausted I feel. I cared for my dad for five years following my mum passing away and it's been non stop every day. Now it's like my body has just stopped and all I want to do is sleep.

My dad died a few months ago and in hindsight I needed a lot more time and headspace to grieve than I allowed myself. Take one day at a time, be kind and gentle with yourself. You're grieving so many aspects and what I found hard was when I had to start my "new normal". Old habits of calling / visiting / checking on him and looking out for food he enjoyed etc took a long time to get used to not doing anymore. Sending a big hug. It's really hard xx

I’m sorry about your Dad. It’s so very hard.

I'm so sorry for your loss. My dad died in December, we knew he had less than a week left and it hit hard when he finally went.
There are still days when I imagine him sitting in a familiar chair or standing by the door waiting for me.
Hold on to all the good memories, I'm sure there are many.
I had some counselling about six months after he died which helped me resolve some of my thoughts in a more logical way, but I needed those six months to process all the different feelings. I still miss him, but it's not as raw now.
Be kind to yourself, grief is a slow process and you'll go through lots of different emotions. Xx

Thank you everyone. I had to register his death today and I can't get my head around the fact he was still alive this time last week albeit very poorly. His funeral is in two weeks time which feels like ages away. I have two older siblings but one I only just about speak to (when I have to) so it's a lot of stress involving them in arrangements.

I'm sorry for your loss

Just sending love. I'm sitting with my Dad now just waiting and I also just made a post that felt like a ramble. I get where you're coming from. It's all so lonely and exhausting isn't it x