Waves of grief

[Bluemat]

I lost my Dad 18 months ago. I thought it was doing ok, I miss him terribly but I manage.

Today I just miss him so much. Then to top it off one of his songs came on the radio and it's just set me off crying.

I feel like I did back when he passed, I don't want to be sad but I really am missing him so much all over again.

So sorry OP.

My dad died very recently and it is his funeral tomorrow and the pain I feel is palpable

Someone described it as being like waves. Sometimes it’s ripples, sometimes small waves, and sometimes massive ones that smash down on you unexpectedly.
You will always grieve, but it will get easier to cope with.

18 months is nothing at all when you’re grieving, you are allowed to be sad x

I promise the waves gradually get further apart, they still come but you have time to catch your breath between them. Today is a hard day, but there will be better days again.

I am 15 years on and still get those awful days where you feel like you have a weight on your chest and can’t breathe. A song, a smell…anything can set me back but they don’t happen nearly as often anymore and I smile more than I cry when thinking of my loved one. Be kind to yourself OP, do you have support around you today?x

It comes in waves. Years on it still happens occasionally but often with a little smile too remembering happy times. Let yourself have permission to feel how you feel.

Hi OP.
I lost my beloved gran 18 months ago too. And I totally get you. You go for months and things seem ok, and then bam it hits you.

For me the trigger has been a significant change in our church - sounds silly but that has been my rock and place of security since she died and it has left me feeling really at sea. Grief is weird and it certainly isn’t rational.

All the best to you