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My poor old nanna

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AnAussieMum · 30/08/2024 15:40

My Nan died 2 weeks ago yesterday. She was 94, it was her time. We were very close, I had allot of MH problems growing up and she was always there for me. I was the only one with her when she died, everyone else had left and said to her see you tomorrow. She was palliative and I couldn’t leave her. I think I would have stayed until someone else came the next day or never be able to leave her until she passed. I told her she could go and I held her hand and played music for her yappping away. The funerals Tuesday and I’ve written something for her service, I won’t read it but the minister will. It was super long and I’ve had to shorten it allot. I have the urge to post it here I hope no one minds. Missing my beautiful nan so much 🥰

To Our precious Nanna,

I don’t know where to start. Well clearly I did as this was 3 and a 1/4 pages long and I had to cut it short. I just have so much to say but there’s just not enough time to express how wonderful you were. You were the kindest sweetest person and the most amazing Nanna and great Nanna you didn’t have a bad word to say about anyone. You were a lady of few words. You kept to yourself but you were a great listener.

you were definitely the fun nanna, days spent at balga pool even though you would stress if we went to far out. “Come back” you’d yell out “I can’t swim remember.” We remembered nanna but we liked to keep you on your toes.

10 pin bowling, Back yard cricket with the home made cricket bat, The games of uno, skip bo, Chinese checkers, colouring in together.
Cooking treats, movies, shopping trips. Disneyland, sewing on the sewing machine together or shopping for patterns and materials because I’d have some crazy idea about an outfit I just had to have. We did it all!

But My favourite 2 things to do with you were cross stitch and cutting the beans on your old bean cutter. Sitting in the back yard with the beans and using your old bean slicer we would sit there for ages cranking that handle and chatting nanna.
And cross stitch. The mess I would make from that getting that cotton all tangled and knotted at the back. “You need to pull it tighter”you’d tell me as you’d so patiently fix the mess I’d made and it’s only now as I’m writing this that I understand the saying “the patients of a saint “
You were so patient nanna you never complained or rushed me.

Oh except for the clothes line, you didn’t think it was funny when we would jump of that hill and swing around on the clothes line. It’s probably the only time you’d yell at us “ get off the bloody clothes line” you’d yell.

You’d have given all of us grandkids the world if you could have. And nanna you know what, You were the world to me.

You always had my back. You never judged me and you always let me know that you were there and you were nanna you were always there.
You were So proud of us all nanna, all of us grandkids and then your great grandkids.

We went to visit you in your new hope and We would go for walks of course you’d have to brag to the other oldies “this is my granddaughter Nicole” you’d tell them so proudly.
You sometimes get confused and tell me that you were forgetting things, I’d say “that’s ok nanna you are ok As long as you don’t forget me” and each and every time you’d say “oh I could never forget you sweetie” and you were true to your word nanna. You never did!

I hated leaving you nanna and id tell you “nanna I love you so much” “love you too sweetie you’d say” Be good nanna” I’d tell you and each and every time you’d say “why should I” or “that’s no fun” and we would laugh.

I am honoured that I sat with you that night. I held your hand for hours, we sat in silence. But I yapped away allot too. We listened to celine Dion and enya hand in hand while of course in the your other hand you held tightly onto your hanky.
I told you everything I wanted to tell you but Nothing that I hadn’t told you before. I told you you that it’s ok and I understand why you have to go that I am happy you will be at peace. My heart will be shattered into a million pieces but I will be ok and eventually I will be. You went so quickly and peacefully nanna and I am forever grateful I got to be there with you holding your hand.

There’s a special spot up there for you nanna a spot that was reserved for only the best.
We are all here now nanna so sad to have lost you but I know that Nanna else and grandad would have been so pleased to see you. Heaven defiantly gained an angel when you got there nanna and just as you promised to never forget me i promise to never forget you. Rest easily my nanna banana. I will love you, remember you and miss you forever.

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FloordrobeIsGoingToGetME · 30/08/2024 15:44

My goodness, OP, what a lovely nanna you had.

Your words are absolutely beautiful. I'm so sorry for your loss, and so happy you had such a wonderful person in your life.

MyNameIsErinQuin · 30/08/2024 15:46

She sounds amazing. RIP

user1471538275 · 30/08/2024 15:49

What a lovely tribute to her.

It sounds like the sort of relationship that I aspire to have with any (future) grandchildren.

She was precious to you. You were precious to her. You will always have that.

DBD1975 · 31/08/2024 01:56

Totally amazing, heartfelt and beautiful.
I am so sorry for your loss, your Nanna was obviously a wonderful person and your words are a perfect tribute.
I know your Nanna must have been so very proud of you and rightly so xx

justflewinfromthewindycity · 31/08/2024 07:46

Awww that sounds beautiful
You were both so lucky to have that bond
I had the same with my nana and she passed 3 years ago
She will be watching over you now
Sorry for your loss
💕

CeruleanBelt · 31/08/2024 07:54

She sounds wonderful op. I'm sorry for your loss.

MySocksAreDotty · 31/08/2024 07:58

Oh gosh what a lovely person. I hope someone will think as much of me, when I’m gone. I’m so sorry for your loss x

permanently · 31/08/2024 08:46

What a woman. Sorry for your loss OP. X

Lwrenn · 31/08/2024 08:50

@AnAussieMum oh my friend, I am so sorry for your loss.
A wonderful nanna is worth their weight in pure gold. You were very blessed.

You've written some gorgeous words and your mutual love is a joy to learn about.

Be lovely to yourself and talk to nanna often, she is apart of you.

Thank you for sharing and rest peacefully with a side of a bit naughty, awesome nanna x

flapjackfairy · 31/08/2024 08:56

Well you have made me cry ! So beautiful written. So v sorry for your loss .

RenoDakota · 31/08/2024 09:08

I am actually choked up here. That is a beautiful and heartfelt tribute to your dear nanna. What an amazing woman she was and you were very lucky to have each other.
Sorry for your loss x

Theleaveswillbefalling · 31/08/2024 09:10

It beautiful but I wonder if others in the family would see this line as a slight “I am honoured that I sat with you that night”.

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