Can you guys advise me please?

[WiltshireGirl]

Hi.

My dad passed away on August 7th, we've chosen Pure Cremation to help us which I would recommend.

I'm now looking after mum. I've had to make every phone call for her, due to her being proudly deaf. I'm also autistic, so I've got that to deal with as well.

I've had to sort a lot of paperwork out, and make a lot of phone calls. I've never had to deal with anything like this before, so it's all new to me.

I'm going away to Devon on Aug 24th. I thought mum was going to be staying with my aunt, turns out now she's planned to go up at Christmas instead.

So now she'll be in the house all alone, which I'm worried about.

I've already been called selfish by someone who thinks I shouldn't go away and i should take her with me instead of abandoning her and having a jolly on the coast.

How can I relax? I'll be worrying all the time while I'm away, that something might happen while I'm not there, and itll be my fault!

That's why I thought about getting this 'your Stride' watch that's been advertised on TV. I'll send you guys a link to it, can you tell me what you think please?

Sometimes I'm feel I'm expected to sit around the house all day long, staring at the four walls. I don't want to do this, I'm autistic as mentioned and (sorry to say this) will affect my mental health. I suffer from anxiety, especially after loosing dad.

She herself gets anxious if I'm out of the house too long, she'll phone up asking where I am.

We are probably going to be offered support groups, mums too proud to accept; but I want to accept if i can.

Sorry if I sound mean, mums very lonely now dad's gone. But I don't want to give up my social life, do mum good to get out. Problem is, she always refuses saying she can't hear what's going on, so what's the point of going etc etc.

She's also thinks that the council are going to evict her, & put her in a home. I've told her that won't happen, but I cant convince her otherwise.

Thanks for taking the time to read my thread. I love mum very much, but now we have to get used to dad not being around anymore.

Many thanks.

I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad, and a really tricky situation now.

I would definitely think you should go on your holiday, I don't think it benefits your mum if you are burnt out. Is there anyone else, even a neighbour who could pop in? Is it worth talking to your aunt to explain the situation? Maybe they could meet now and at Christmas considering the circumstances?

Sending ♥️

Thanks for your reply, I've decided to go else ill make myself ill. I've ordered the your stride watch, so that should help. We need suppirt, but she's too proud to accept. Means I miss out too.

Do you live with your mum? What exactly are you most concerned about - is she likely to fall? can she cook for herself and do her own personal care? Would it make sense for a care agency or befriending agency to pop in to see her daily?

Is this an advertisement for a watch?

Hi I'm staying with her until I go away on the 24th when I go away. My main concern is her getting up during the night and falling, and me not being there; she's diabetic.

My friend had somone from a care agency, but one from a agency stole money from her;; & was abusive. I dint want my mum to experience that.

Hers a link to that watch I mentioned. Your stride watch

Thanks.

Is this an Ad?

You should be able to get a free alarm from occupational health. Get a review, there could be lots of aids that would help her. Yes, you should definitely go.