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Desperate to see my mum again

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Newusername345 · 13/08/2024 20:11

Does anyone else feel this?
I lost my lovely Mum nearly 7 months ago.
She had an illness which affected her brain for 6 weeks before she died.
For 4 weeks the doctors thought it would be fully recoverable.
Her final week she was unconscious.
The 1 week we had when we knew she was going to die (and she strongly suspected) she couldn’t hear properly because of the brain issue and she was on a noisy ward.

I am desperate for her to come to me in a dream, or as a ghost, or a sign, am I going mad?

I keep it to myself, but am still so devastated.

I completely understand why people go to mediums.

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LondonLass61 · 13/08/2024 20:51

You're not mad - it's grief (and possibly shock) and it's horrible. You could try contacting your GP or Cruse for some bereavement counselling or even just reading about the stages of grief. It may make you feel less alone at this dreadful time.
Best wishes xx

www.cruse.org.uk/

Justanotherusername27 · 13/08/2024 23:25

I could have written this myself. Almost worried that you’re my sister 😂. We have both been to mediums and it’s brought us a lot of peace. I also read ‘the inbetween’ by hospice nurse Hadley. Helped so much x

Dottydoodoo · 15/08/2024 19:01

You are not going mad. I completely understand. I lost my mum in January. She was in hospital for two months and had been affected by a stroke, so couldn't communicate properly.

I feel like it makes me sound crazy, but I often feel like I am wondering where she is. You read about all of these things like robins and white feathers and I have seen these but I don't feel her with me at all. The few dreams I have had with her in have been horrible as she was unwell in the dream. I miss her desperately.

I manage to hold myself together mostly and to friends and work colleagues I come across as being absolutely fine but the truth is that I am really struggling. Life feels very hopeless without her here.

I'm sorry I have no advice, but sending you gentle thoughts x

kalkem72 · 15/08/2024 23:07

I know exactly how you feel - I lost my lovely Mum in October last year. I too wonder if she is around me in some form, so desperately want to hear her voice again and speak to her. It's the most awful feeling. I cope on a day to day basis but inside I'm so sad and lonely trying to hold it in.

Shivvy1 · 15/08/2024 23:35

Yes I know how you feel. I lost my mum so suddenly last year and I went through a stage of wondering where she was and if I would ever see her again which really upset me. Coming up to her anniversary I asked her to show me a sign she was still with me. We were going away for a few days and I took a picture of my daughter and there are just rays of light shinning on her that you couldn't see with your naked eye just with the photo. It was amazing and everyone I showed it to was amazed, they hadn't see anything like it. I hope it was her telling me she is still with me. I also went through this phase of how could I turn back time
To change what happened, what could I do. I miss her everyday and don't think I'll ever get over losing her x

Shivvy1 · 15/08/2024 23:37

I also went to a few mediums but I wasn't overly impressed with them but I would try them again to see if she will come through or my granny who I also lost lst year xx

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