How often to you visit someone’s grave?

[Piscesmumma1978]

Just that really. I’ve been going to my dads weekly since June and now it’s every fortnight.

Its just struck me that I don’t know how often I should go. I only really go for 10 minutes but feel like I should.

Thank you x

If I drive past the cemetery, I will pop in and give my parents' headstone a wipe over, remove bird shit etc. Maybe 3 or 4 times a year.

I don't believe in any after life, so I am not really sure what I am doing there. But my dad tended it when it was just my mum in there, so I think he'd appreciate keeping the headstone nice.

I've been to my dad's grave twice since he died 15 years ago. It is in a beautiful spot but miles from where I live, it would take me a day to get there and a day to get back.

However, I doubt I would go much more if the grave was closer, he lives in my heart, not the ground.

My DH died 12 years ago. Just over a year after that I moved 80 miles from the village where we had lived. I have my memories but have not returned to the village churchyard where his ashes are buried. However DD1 lives a few miles away and goes to ‘visit dad’ most months. We all manage our grief differently…..

I message her every day but her messages come back not delivered but I feel I'm still taking to her x

I pass the cemetery where DF is buried most days as it’s on the way to everywhere including DMs. I can park next to his grave so sometimes I’ll drive in and say hello. I don’t usually stop for more than a minute or two.

My dad was buried at the decision of my step mother, he is many hours away and I know it was against his wishes to be buried, I have been a couple of times over the 2 years since he passed. In truth I hate it there, it reminds me of what he wouldn't have wanted and I prefer to remember him in my own way

I very rarely go to dads since he passed almost two years ago , special days like birthday, Father’s Day and Christmas but I feel him around me and not at his graveside

Never, because for me it isn't important.

Whatever brings you comfort is right for you x

How ever often you want to is the right answer. I have never visited the grve of by family member. I dont need or want to. Other people do.