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Strange or unpleasant things you've been left in someone's Will

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RogueFemale · 03/08/2024 20:36

About 10 years ago, a friend of my late mother's died, 20+ years older than me, single and childless. She lived abroad, and we'd occasionally meet up when she visited London, as she'd known me as a child, and we shared a loathing of my late mother's last husband. She had a drink problem so I increasingly avoided the meet ups. It wasn't much fun hauling her staggering along the pavement onto a bus and hoping she'd get off at the right stop for her hotel.

Anyway, she died, and I got an email from the executors saying they'd like to pass on her bequest.

It turned out to be a case of 12x bottles of shampoo, with an accompanying message from the deceased saying she hoped I'd remember to wash my hair more frequently in future. I didn't reply to the executors' request for a delivery address.

Anyone have a similar experience?

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Lovemybunnies · 03/08/2024 20:40

I prepare Wills and have never heard of anything like this. The worst I have seen is people giving reasons for not leaving someone a legacy but usually the reasons are quite justified. What a spiteful thing to do to you!

DwarfBeans · 03/08/2024 20:41

Blimey! 😧 I wonder who she left the rest of her estate to. And what message accompanied that 😂

PashaMinaMio · 03/08/2024 20:45

Do you wash your hair more frequently now?
How rude of her. She was a drunk. Put her in your rear view mirror and forget her.

Mymanyellow · 03/08/2024 20:46

My uncle left my dm his parrot. Swore like a docker too.

Mymanyellow · 03/08/2024 20:47

The parrot I mean not my uncle. Mind you he must have learnt it somewhere.

Fannyfiggs · 03/08/2024 20:48

Mymanyellow · 03/08/2024 20:47

The parrot I mean not my uncle. Mind you he must have learnt it somewhere.

😂😂 I love sweary parrots. Does your DM still have him/her?

CarrieMoonbeams · 03/08/2024 20:49

I worked with a bloke whose younger brother was left a huge amount of money and the house when their dad died. My colleague was left "the choice of one book from my library" 😳

Lifelover16 · 03/08/2024 20:52

A patient left a friend of mine (palliative care nurse) a chip pan. My friend had been discussing with the patient how she loved real deep fried chips rather than oven/frozen ones. An odd thing to leave but my friend was touched by the kind thought.

The same friend was also left a pewter musical jewellery box in the shape of a grand piano, which when the lid was lifted played “Lara’s Theme” from Dr Zhivago. No rationale for that one, but no doubt a kind thought behind it too.

Prisonbreak · 03/08/2024 20:53

Parrots are often passed on as they tend to outlive us.

my mum’s dad (my GF) left her a hand written note and 0.01p saying that’s all she was worth. Obviously this didn’t matter legally and she was given her share of the estate with which she bought a watch that has increased in value significantly over the last 20 years

blitzen · 03/08/2024 20:53

That's so odd, OP. I still think I'd receive the shampoo in case it was stuffed with loads of notes £££! My first thought was it might have been supposed to be champagne but then the note wouldn't have made sense. The note was mean and I don't think I could think fondly of this person any more. X

WhitesAndStripes · 03/08/2024 20:53

Money so not strange / unpleasant but my nan left my sister £10,000 and I was left £500. We were her only grandchildren.

Pebbles16 · 03/08/2024 20:56

A friend of mine was left "the contents of her larder" by her grandmother.
Intriguing... perhaps a hidden stash of treasure?
No: half a dozen of tins of Spam (friend is veggie); some Golden Syrup and a couple of tins of beans (Heinz, so, realise they are ££s nowadays!).
Such an odd bequest.

RogueFemale · 03/08/2024 21:00

Mymanyellow · 03/08/2024 20:46

My uncle left my dm his parrot. Swore like a docker too.

I'd rather like to inherit an old sweary parrot.

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RogueFemale · 03/08/2024 21:01

CarrieMoonbeams · 03/08/2024 20:49

I worked with a bloke whose younger brother was left a huge amount of money and the house when their dad died. My colleague was left "the choice of one book from my library" 😳

Harsh!

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RogueFemale · 03/08/2024 21:03

Lifelover16 · 03/08/2024 20:52

A patient left a friend of mine (palliative care nurse) a chip pan. My friend had been discussing with the patient how she loved real deep fried chips rather than oven/frozen ones. An odd thing to leave but my friend was touched by the kind thought.

The same friend was also left a pewter musical jewellery box in the shape of a grand piano, which when the lid was lifted played “Lara’s Theme” from Dr Zhivago. No rationale for that one, but no doubt a kind thought behind it too.

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These are both sweet.

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Tightfishedtwat · 03/08/2024 21:03

My friend inherited a parrot. She is great and when we Teams as we work from home the parrot joins us. She also turns his laptop off and steals his pens. She loves an old musical on the TV. He said he didn't want the parrot but secretly it's his new best friend.

leeverarch · 03/08/2024 21:07

Along with some ornaments and things, ExH inherited an elderly cat.

Cantbelievethatimafoolagain · 03/08/2024 21:08

Maybe there is money in the shampoo bottles?

RogueFemale · 03/08/2024 21:10

Prisonbreak · 03/08/2024 20:53

Parrots are often passed on as they tend to outlive us.

my mum’s dad (my GF) left her a hand written note and 0.01p saying that’s all she was worth. Obviously this didn’t matter legally and she was given her share of the estate with which she bought a watch that has increased in value significantly over the last 20 years

Awful of mum's dad, such a crushing thing to do :(

I discovered a piece of paper written by my father, after he got sudden vascular dementia. It was a list of who gets what stuff (not money) and at the top of the list was his last wife 'Nothing', I was second on the list 'Nothing'. Not just left off the list but included to say 'Nothing'.

He was fucked off because my mother had died and left me everything, after her second rich husband had died prematurely.

Edit: and Dad could no longer control me, cos I had money. He hated it.

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MelainesLaugh · 03/08/2024 21:11

A violin.

I am the least musical person ever but my aunt, for some unknown reason, wanted me to have it. It’s in my loft and I’ve never played it. I wouldn’t know where to start.

I would love a Sweary parrot though!!!

RogueFemale · 03/08/2024 21:12

blitzen · 03/08/2024 20:53

That's so odd, OP. I still think I'd receive the shampoo in case it was stuffed with loads of notes £££! My first thought was it might have been supposed to be champagne but then the note wouldn't have made sense. The note was mean and I don't think I could think fondly of this person any more. X

It never occurred to me this might be a trick bequest, haha!

It was a mean note, for sure. It's because I had kept avoiding the drunky meet ups.

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RogueFemale · 03/08/2024 21:14

Pebbles16 · 03/08/2024 20:56

A friend of mine was left "the contents of her larder" by her grandmother.
Intriguing... perhaps a hidden stash of treasure?
No: half a dozen of tins of Spam (friend is veggie); some Golden Syrup and a couple of tins of beans (Heinz, so, realise they are ££s nowadays!).
Such an odd bequest.

That is really quite weird.

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ARichtGoodDram · 03/08/2024 21:16

Not a mean sounding bequest but my father left me an equal share of his estate. He also made me the executor and didn't have a back up named. He also did his will in a deliberately complicated way and openly laughed that it would take me "an age" to sort it all.

All when he knew I wanted nothing from him, nothing to do with him and I despised him for being abusive.

I had the last laugh and refused to have anything to do with it. It took his golden boy an age to sort indeed.

BuggeryBumFlaps · 03/08/2024 21:18

My dad was left 3 china fish that you put on a wall (a bit like the old 70s ducks) from his cousin, mainly because he used to call her 'the old trout' it was a standing joke and my Dad is really annoyed as she finally got the last word and he can't get her back.

He was also left some cow horns by his parents as he hated them, I equally dislik them (horrid things) and I have a horrid feeling he will leave them to me in his will.

RogueFemale · 03/08/2024 21:18

leeverarch · 03/08/2024 21:07

Along with some ornaments and things, ExH inherited an elderly cat.

As a cat lover, I completely approve of this.

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