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Please help me know what to/ not say,

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mummyeme · 12/04/2008 19:36

A close friend from years ago contacted me tonight, we have lost touch and not spoken for 3 years at least. I knew his mum was very unwell through a friend (who I also hadn't seen for ages). He rang me tonight assuming I knew she had died, his mums funeral was yesterday. He obviously wanted someone to speak to and I can't imagine what he's going through. We had a short conversation which was a bit awkward, lots of silences (I've never been great on the phone plus we haven't seen each other in ages). But if anyone can give me advise on what to do or say/not say I'd be really grateful, I want to be there for him and help.
Thankyou in advance

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lilyloo · 12/04/2008 19:41

As he rang you i would guess he wants to talk about it. Could you arrange to go round for coffee ? Maybe take some food etc. Does he haveany dc's ? You could offer to take them out for an hour.
When i lost my mum it was good to talk when i wanted so would let him lead things and follow his direction.

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