my lovely mil passed away

[cheesesarnie]

she had a heart attack and it affected her kidneys.ive told the children,but youngest is only 2 so doesnt undestand,but he goes there daily -i was doing lots there.and we have to walk past her house daily-how do i explain why we cant go to see granny?he knows she was taken off in an ambulance because he saw her,i dont want him thinking people go off in ambulannces and never come back.she was such a lovely lady,im really panicking about coping without her.she has 6 children,hundreds of grand children and granchildren-too many to count anyway.so she was the one i went to for advice on cradle cap,colds,nappy rash etc.ds got a temp yesterday and i panicked-i wanted to phone her.also everyday we did jobs for her so ive got nothing to do now-well nothing but 3 children!i really am going to miss her and am being strong for dh and trying to help the family as much as i can.

this is a hard time for you all

don;t worry too much at this point about explaining stuff

it sounds like you have a lot of lovely memories

you also allow yourself a good cry - you are grieving too

i know but i feel i need to be strong for dh

so sorry for your loss. the words will come when the time is needed, so don't worry too much about what you are going to day to them. They will ask questions and you will answer them.

she sounded a wonderful woman. cherish the memories and the good times.

thinking of you all x

crying doesnt mean that you arent strong hun. It shows you care. x

my gran passed away nerly 8yrs ago and I still feel the need to phone her nearly every day - I think it is a lovely testament to how fond you were of her and how much of a support she was to you

she'll live on in all her lovely family and what you're doing is lovely, be strong for dh but don't forget to grieve for YOUR loss too, she was a good friend and comfort to you and its important to remember that

am so sorry for your loss

Oh, I am so sorry for your loss, I read your other thread and was hoping she'd be ok. It sounds like you were a lovely d-i-l to her and she had a lovely relationship with you and your dc. Totally agree with AAW, don't worry about having to be "strong", having a good old cry just shows that you are sad to have lost her, it isn't weakness at ALL. xxx

So sorry to hear this.

Cry, cry and cry until you can't cry anymore. It is the only way to get it out of your system. If you try and stifle it it will never go away. And if you need to cry again 10 minutes later, what does it matter? You miss someone your dearly loved, there's nothing wrong with that.

Love to you all xx

I am sorry cheesesarnie

I agree, do allow yourself to cry. I think if anything it will be a comfort to your dh to see how much you loved and cared for his mum.

She sounds like she was a lovely lady

thankyou.she was a lovely lady.we use to laugh at how we could get on so well and have so much in common with a 50 year age gap!
last year she was very ill after a stroke and a heart attack(i think i posted on here but maybe as moljam or kittypants)and i think i just went into cope with it mode from then.i did cry lots when we went to the hospital to say goodbye after she'd gone,she looked like she was sleeping peacefully and had no pain.