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I went for first session of counselling today. Felt a bit awkward. Is this normal?

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Bubble99 · 11/04/2008 19:20

That's it really. It might be because I was a nurse up until a few years ago and so used to being the listener, but I found it difficult.

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Mhamai · 11/04/2008 20:55

She rather.

Bubble99 · 11/04/2008 20:59

Thanks. He must be very special to you.

Did/do you ever feel that life doesn't give you time or opportunity to feel things? I don't want to wallow in all the sad stuff but I also feel that I've stuffed it into a cupboard and shut the door and it's now affecting so much of my day to day stuff that I need to clear it all out.

I'm on the edge of tears so often and I also spend a lot of time feeling so angry about seemingly nothing.

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Bubble99 · 11/04/2008 21:03

Thanks Mhamai and all. xx

I'm off to bed now. Early for me but I feel drained after today. Good though, like I've started on the way to some kind of resolution.

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Mhamai · 11/04/2008 21:11

Bubble I was and can still sometimes be so cut off from my feelings that I've often been in my counselling session not knowing what I'm feeling! It took my counsellor a while to comvince me that that was ok. I think we spend so much of our time thinking we should be feeling this way or that and hopefully counselling will give to that all important space to process that.

Counselling can often be described as peeling back the layers. There really is no right or wrong. Learning to trust yourself and your counsellor will take time. You are so right about there not being time to feel though.

I rarely talk about the counsellor related stuff here mainly because I'm still training and don't feel qualafied enough yet but from a personal perspective as someone who is in therapy, I feel you will benefit greatly from it.

Sorry, I'm waffling a bit now, I've had a few glasses of wine.

Mhamai · 11/04/2008 21:12

Ok, last sentence of last paragrah was grammatically all over the place, I meant hopefully the counselling room will give you the space to process what you are feeling.

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