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For my friend who died yesterday

33 replies

Glintofsummer · 02/07/2024 19:45

and I’ve nowhere else to put it. She was 36 and died four weeks after a cancer diagnosis.

Red

Sometimes you would ask me
If I would write a poem
Just for you
And I would say
It doesn’t work like that Red,
The stubborn words won’t fall unbridled
To the paper
Even if I ask them nicely

Then you died.

And suddenly the words are
Falling unbidden,
Unasked for, uninvited,
Like autumn leaves in chaotic whirlwind murmurations -
It was always your favourite season -
Spiced pumpkin lattes, whipped cream dreams -
The chill of possibility taut on the crisp morning air,
Skies torn open, canvas painted -
Red.
You’d walk for miles along the beach
To find your answers - hoping they might be hidden
Furled like tiny starfish truths underneath the sand -

But there can be no answers now.

And then you’d call me and we would laugh
At how things always and yet never changed
Sometimes then it didn’t feel so hard -
Somehow then it didn’t feel so bad.

For you there are no new mornings,
Lost forever are the autumn days you
Always loved so much
The grainy dew -
The bespoke frost, blades sparkling like diamonds -
In the half light of dawn’s reluctant gaze.
Infinite evenings of clouds stitched hastily to starlit skies
The twilight whispering for the day to end.

The twilight whispered for your day to end.

Somewhere in my mind’s eye
You walk across some far-flung beach
Your body glowing warm in the midday sun
Face upturned -
Shadows long -
Starfish unfurled -
Sorrows cast adrift on the wild ocean -
Making every autumn sunrise -
Making every autumn sunset -
Red.

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Haggisfish3 · 02/07/2024 19:46

That is beautiful. I’m so sorry for your loss.

Longdueachange · 02/07/2024 19:46

Beautiful words @Glintofsummer. Sorry for your loss. 💐

SpanielintheWorks · 02/07/2024 19:46

That's amazing. Your friend would be proud.

Setyoufree · 02/07/2024 19:48

I'm so sorry for your loss, what a beautiful poem

Dragonsandcats · 02/07/2024 19:48

I’m so sorry for your loss. What beautiful words for her.

Applestrudel71 · 02/07/2024 19:48

Gosh that’s amazing, so moving. I’m so sorry op, she sounds like a wonderful person 🌺

KnitnNatterAuntie · 02/07/2024 19:49

So very, very thoughtful and beautiful 💐

My friend lost her Mum yesterday . . . sending love & hugs to everyone who is affected by cancer

onwardandupwards · 02/07/2024 19:49

Beautiful words, so sorry for your loss xx

Glintofsummer · 02/07/2024 19:50

Thank you.
it’s hard because really want to send it to her…and I can’t. So it’s sort of stuck.
She loved autumn and would get excited for Christmas in September. By October the Christmas music would be on and I’d be rolling my eyes. She loved Halloween and when Starbucks got their pumpkin lattes - she’d be there on the first day ordering.

She got so ill so fast.

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Fuckitydoodah · 02/07/2024 19:50

That's absolutely beautiful. I'm so very sorry for your loss.

Uricon2 · 02/07/2024 19:51

I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend. I've lost close friends too and sometimes you feel like your grief isn't meant to be quite "the same" as for a family member, but it can be just as intense and painful.

Take good care of yourself.

Glintofsummer · 02/07/2024 19:53

I think I do feel that about her family and would never want to encroach on their grief.
Life is sad and awful sometimes, she was very unlucky.
She shared my dark sense of humour and I could pretty much say anything and know she wouldn’t judge me.

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Purplepeoniesdroppingpetals · 02/07/2024 19:54

A beautiful poem - I read something written by a relative at a much loved brother in law’s funeral. Poetry captures not just the words but the emotion so much more powerfully. I’m so sorry for your sudden loss; it must be such a shock.

legosnowqueen · 02/07/2024 20:55

That's so moving, a beautiful poem - very sorry for your loss & 4 weeks is very quick. I wonder if in time you could share the poem with your friend's family Flowers

AuraBora · 02/07/2024 21:06

A very moving and beautiful poem, thank you for sharing. I'm so sorry about your friend.

Mum2jenny · 02/07/2024 21:09

Maybe email it to her email address.
I know that sounds weird but you never know…..
Sorry for your loss and the poem is lovely.💐

franke · 02/07/2024 21:10

This is beautiful. I'm so sorry you've lost your friend.

semideponent · 02/07/2024 21:28

What a wonderful tribute to a Fire soul.

Thank you for telling us about her.

Be gentle with yourself. Your poem is like water - so needed.

I'm sorry for your loss and how sudden it was, Glad there's a poem to make sense,

Springwatch123 · 02/07/2024 21:30

Sorry for your loss. So young.

Chimchar · 02/07/2024 21:32

I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend.
Your words are beautiful and made me shed a little tear.
Sending you hugs x

Marlena1 · 02/07/2024 21:34

I am so sorry for your loss, they are beautiful words x

shellyleppard · 02/07/2024 21:34

Beautiful tribute X so sorry for your loss x

Goldusty · 02/07/2024 21:43

What a lovely friend you are..and talented 💐

caringcarer · 02/07/2024 21:50

Glintofsummer · 02/07/2024 19:50

Thank you.
it’s hard because really want to send it to her…and I can’t. So it’s sort of stuck.
She loved autumn and would get excited for Christmas in September. By October the Christmas music would be on and I’d be rolling my eyes. She loved Halloween and when Starbucks got their pumpkin lattes - she’d be there on the first day ordering.

She got so ill so fast.

So sorry for your huge loss. Your friend sounds like they were really vibrant and loving life. 💔

BobbyBiscuits · 02/07/2024 22:31

How moving and lovely. Your dear friend was lucky to have you in her life.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you have plenty of support from mutual friends and family? The darkness will fade gradually. But for now sending lots of love and support.