Suicide bereavement

[Darkerdaze]

I'm a long time poster but NC for this due to sensitive circumstances.

We recently found out one of our friends has committed suicide. My partner was very close to him and they'd been friends since they were tiny.

I think my partner and some of the other friends are finding it difficult to process what happened and want more details. The guy had some MH struggles but no one saw this coming, his wife is also pregnant with their baby boy and due any day.

My partner is really struggling with it, he's withdrawn and short-tempered which I understand. We have our own baby on the way too which probably isn't helping. I feel like whatever I say is the wrong thing, I'm finding myself keeping out of his way as he's so short with me. Don't want to ask him any questions even about mundane day-to-day things.

Has anyone got any advice on how I can support him? It's really hit him hard.

Would he consider talking to someone? Maybe you could contact one of them to ask for advice? I hope someone can offer some help, it must be difficult for you all

https://www.cruse.org.uk/understanding-grief/grief-experiences/traumatic-loss/coping-when-someone-dies-by-suicide/

https://supportaftersuicide.org.uk/

My best friend died from suicide and I know I was very snappy and dismissive of my husband. It seems insane now that I made her death about me but the guilt I felt was horrendous.
I found it helpful to reach out and process my feelings with people that were feeling the same way, so other mutual friends that were feeling similar.

I lost my best friend to suicide and I can remember one day screaming at my Husband for something of nothing. A couple of hours later I apologised and he accepted without question.

The best thing my Husband did was take a step back, while letting me know he was there if I needed him. He didn't act like it didn't happen, but just kind of treated me like he normally would and the second he saw me start to crumple he'd hold me. When I needed to obsessively talk about my grief he listened.

We are now several months on and I realise how awful I was in the early days. But I've come out the other side and I'm incredibly grateful for him.

My friend's suicide was expected, he was very unwell and had had a lot of help and as a friend group we had surrounded him and I honestly believe we did everything we could. I have no idea how I would have handled it had it been unexpected.

Have you considered counselling for you? This is also a lot for you to go through, especially while pregnant