Bereavement and unable to cope with extra stress

[Rosieposy89]

Hello,

I am just after reassurance and wisdom from those who have sadly walked this path before as I feel lost.

In the beginning of May, my sister died aged 32 after a short but horrific diagnosis of cancer. It was stage 4 when diagnosed in February so there was no hope. The funeral was last week. Tbh, I haven't really processed much of it as I'm still in shock that my baby sister had terminal cancer and the speed of it all.

I am back at work and looking after dd. I am finding I feel very on edge and I just can't cope with any additional stress, an issue with my car this week has tipped me over the edge. I would have been able to rationalise and deal with it prior to all this. I feel like a shadow of myself. It's all so exhausting.

Is this a normal grief thing? What helps?

Cruse are excellent for bereavement counselling. Please contact them. I am so sorry for your loss.

I'm very sorry about your sister.

I think it is completely normal grief thing (as are many, many other reactions).
And, honestly, I think time is the biggest thing that helps.

Just keep going, a minute, hour, day, week at a time. Find joy where you can, and accept when you can't. Try bereavement support if you think it may help.

Yes it's normal. Grief makes you very very vulnerable so everything seems overwhelming. You will still be in shock and disbelief so have no resources to deal with anything else.

Hour at a time. Day at a time.

Sorry for your loss.

Thank you so much all. I will give Cruse a call

I'm so so sorry about your sister. What a difficult time you and your family are going through
Seek support in your local area. There will be centres of support who can advise on bereavement support. Macmillan might be worth looking at, you can call their helpline.
Your local hospice should offer bereavement support.